Kilty Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Hiya - been away for a while. Here is my latest epic. Maybe if i vent i will realise how better off i am however as with all failures i feel a bit down. I have known this girl for a couple of years as a work colleague. We work in different parts of the building so i hardly see her. Anyway in the 2 years i have known her she has had a couple of bad breakups. She is quite a forward girl, very gobby and confrontational and a lot of the time she doesnt help herself. I knew she is on anti depresants and has a lot of issues mainly because of the break ups. However i have always got on well with her as friends. I knew she was single so i asked her out to the cinema a month or so ago and she agreed to go on a friends only basis which was fine. We had a good time The following week i asked her to go out to the cinema again and she agreed. This time the conditions were we still went as friends and that i keep my gob closed when i was eating as this was a major phobia of hers Felt a bit like a chimp but laughed it off even though she went on about it at length Again we had a good time So after being the perfect gentleman she decided to flirt a bit and said her feelings had changed and wanted to go out on a date which i happily agreed to as i had liked her for some time. So as the date approached we were emailing in work and she seemed overly keen as to what i would be wearing - i said id be smart, clean and smelling nice. However she went on about this a bit and eventually she said she thought the type of jeans i wear were naff and if i turned up in a pair of them she'd be off. I didnt know whether this was a joke but on the day of the date i was paranoid about what i wear and was beginning to think to myself who the **** this girl thought she was. I asked other girls in the work if they thought the same and they said my dress sense was fine even when i pushed them not to tell lies to make me feel better. So by the time i picked her up i was a bit pissed off and to make matters worse when she got into the car she admitted to having drunk a half bottle of wine beforehand. We dumped the car and got into town and went to a bar. Within 30 minutes i had called her an arse due to her insisting i elaborate on a story which i started to do , she interupted saying "can we go somewhere else" - it was very rude. This caused the mother of all arguments in the street I was ready for legging it but she became all apologetic and we went to another pub once we had both calmed down. The next 4 hours were good although she insisted on telling stories about her ex's and wanted to know about mine. Obviously i was uncomfortable about this. At the end of the night we were both drunk and she grabbed my arm and my belly quite harshly and made some sort of condecending comment about my exercise routine. I was a bit angry as her pinching was a bit sore and said thats enough - im going to the toilet and then getting the train home. When i came out the toilet she was gone. I waited 15 minutes but no sign of her so i left Turns out she was in the toilet either crying or on the phone to her friends so when i got home to my own cell phone (i had left it at home) i had 3 texts and 3 missed calls. She cried down the phone and said she builds a wall round her with guys which i understood. So anyway this was a disaster but we went straight out the next day to sort it out, went a long drive and had a lovely day. A few days later we went out for my birthday and had a nice aftenoon meal and again had a lovely time. She asked me back to hers when i dropped her off but i declined as i know this girl has a thing about guys only wanting one thing from her so i decided to remain the gentleman. We went out again this weekend and went shopping. Had a great day then had dinner. I dropped her off at 6.15pm and we agreed to meet at the pub at 7.45pm which we did. The problem was that she was half cut when she met me - she again had a half bottle of wine getting ready and a couple of vodkas. To say i was dissapointed was an understatement Anyway we went to the pub and i started drinking fast to catch up with her Again the conversation leaned heavily towards her ex's You can imagine how much of a turn off this was becoming We went to another pub but by this time she was blootered and once we were in the new pub she did the pinching thing again I told her i was not happy and i was also fed up with hearing about her ex's. I went to the toilet, came out and she was gone. She had gotten a taxi home. She phoned and apologised the following evening and said amongst other things i was a lovely guy who deserved better and wanted to be friends. I said to her that i was willing to try if she would only turn up on a date sober and not go on about ex boyfriends. I think she is in denial about the drinking as her reasoning was that this was something that she has always done and it was to calm her nerves. We had spent all day together so i couldnt understand what she had to be nervous about. Think this is a load of bollocks. I told her that the two biggest turn offs for any guy, not just me, was their date turning up drunk and going on about ex boyfriends I dont think she believed me Anyway i said i was not interested in being friends with her and would prefer no more contact if it was over. She texted me a few more times and i ignored her She then said "If i makes you feel any better i feel terrible too - i am not a cow i have feelings" She was going on a night out with her friend I just replied saying "Either we try or we give up and if its the latter then be decent and dont contact me again" I havent heard from her since Everybody warned me about her and my pals have said i am well out. She just seems to be a bit unstable and a total loose cannon However i am a bit gutted as i like her There thats me vented - sorry
Ami1uwant Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 It seems to me she is an alcoholic....but she doesn't realize it. Its a jeckel/Hyde. Have you asked her about her ex when he is sober? Actually it is good to learn bout relationships with exes then you can find out what potential flaws could be.
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