somedude81 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Since the last girl who was giving me strong signals and I actually ended up making plans to go out salsa dancing with her, ended up being married, I'm kinda lost. The whole does she want friendship vs romantic interest thing is driving me insane. There is another girl in my class who is super friendly and very touchy with me so I am thinking about getting to her better and then at the end of class she ends up walking out with another guy. I've also seen her talking to him a lot before. Guess that means I should just forget about her now. And now I'm left with no girls who react to me any differently than anybody else and I don't know what to do. Just start asking out girls one by one till somebody says yes? Almost like asking out every other girl I dance with as we switch partners. It would be so awesome if I could somehow figure out if anybody wants to get to know me better, cause right now it almost feels like I'm wasting my time.
Negative Nancy Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 If we knew then rejection wouldn't exist. Most helpful posting of the year.
Author somedude81 Posted September 24, 2012 Author Posted September 24, 2012 If we knew then rejection wouldn't exist. I'm not asking for a 100% foolproof method. Seriously, do girls just hope that guys they want to get to know better, randomly ask her out? Or do girls just not care at all about guys and just go with the flow?
Pyro Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I'm not asking for a 100% foolproof method. Seriously, do girls just hope that guys they want to get to know better, randomly ask her out? Or do girls just not care at all about guys and just go with the flow? If a girl finds you attractive and likes talking to you then yes she will want to get to know you better and/or want you to ask her out. Chat her up some before you ask. I am not a big fan of the cold approach. 2
Author somedude81 Posted September 26, 2012 Author Posted September 26, 2012 So the chatting up thing is the key? In my salsa class there are about 30 girls I usually only get a couple of minutes with each girl before we have to rotate but there is always time to talk before and after class. The problem is that I really don't know what to talk about during those free times. It already seems that some people are starting to pair off and I'm wondering how the guys made those connections and got the girls to want to be with them. I'm also a little jealous that the girl I'm the most interested in seems to have already picked a guy and now they always leave class together.
MrCastle Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 You don't ever really know. That's the whole thing. Some girls are either nice out of pity or they're just nice people in general, doesn't mean they see you as a romantic interest. There really is no way of dealing with it, you just ask a girl out and if she says no you move on to the next one.
ThaWholigan Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 So the chatting up thing is the key? In my salsa class there are about 30 girls I usually only get a couple of minutes with each girl before we have to rotate but there is always time to talk before and after class. The problem is that I really don't know what to talk about during those free times. It already seems that some people are starting to pair off and I'm wondering how the guys made those connections and got the girls to want to be with them. I'm also a little jealous that the girl I'm the most interested in seems to have already picked a guy and now they always leave class together. Try and be aware of what's going on around you and comment about it. Talk about what you're doing. Try and keep abreast () of a bunch of things in terms of knowledge, pop culture and other things. That should give you things to talk about, drop a casual comment here and there if you think it's relevant.
ThaWholigan Posted September 26, 2012 Posted September 26, 2012 You don't ever really know. That's the whole thing. Some girls are either nice out of pity or they're just nice people in general, doesn't mean they see you as a romantic interest. There really is no way of dealing with it, you just ask a girl out and if she says no you move on to the next one. Yeah, you have to take little risks in terms of conversation and asking girls out. Be bold .
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