conner64 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I just recently found out my boyfriend cheated on me. It happened Tuesday night and he told me the next day. I was furious when I found out since he always promised he would never do that to me. We both have been cheated on in the past and know how much it hurts. Nothing justifies his actions but this is the story he told me. He had met this girl previously at a party. On tuesday night he got drunk and went out with his friends to a bar. At the bar this girl recognized him and started talking to him. When the bar closed he walked her home with his friend and her friend. At some point they separated and he walked her home to her apartment. Outside her apartment he kissed her. They kissed and talked for about 30 mins. At which point she asked if he was going to take her number and he said no and left. He called me the next day and told me what had happened. I was beyond hurt. He says its the worst thing he's ever done and he has no excuse or reason for doing it. He also said that at no point until he kissed her was that ever what he was thinking and that when it happened he remembers thinking it wasn't real. After this happened we spent the next few days together talking and trying to figure things out. I decided that we needed a week apart to clear our heads. At this point I am unsure of how to go about trusting him again even though he has been open and honest so far. I have spoken to his friend (who is a mutual friend) and he said that he didn't see anything between them and he is shocked this happened. Please help me figure this out. I will answer any questions you have.
KatZee Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Take it from someone who stayed with her cheater. Get out. Get out now. He cheated when drunk. Is this the kind of guy you want? The one you always have to be worried about when he goes out drinking with his friends? The trust is gone. Completely and totally gone, and it's going to be a long time before he gets it back. The relationship as you knew it is gone. It's completely dead and buried and it's not coming back. I remember the intense feelings after I found out my ex cheated. I hated him. I was angry, sad, and depressed all the time. I wanted to believe it was a mistake, and that he felt truly remorseful... but lets be real. Cheating is the single most disrespectful thing someone can do to their partner, and it is the fastest and most efficient way to kill a relationship.
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