cjuarez1991 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 First off here's a bit of history on our relationship: We have been together about a year and a half, it has been a very rocky relationship (due to trust issues insecurities, and lots and I mean lots of insignificant arguing) I have a 4 year old son from a previous relationship and him he has no kids. The three of us currently live together (for about 7 or so months) So just the other day he calls me up after work saying he got off early and was going to stay and drink a beer with his co worker (I thought like outside of their shop like usual) he ends up going to the bar staying a bit longer than he planned and drinking a bit more than he planned also. Which did upset me a bit but I was not angry or raging mad. when he called to say he was on his way home he asked me are you upset my response was " of course I'm upset you know that" (but I said it in a cheery voice) *my reason for being upset wasn't because he stayed longer or because he drank more but just for the simple fact that I feel he should have text me at least to let me know he was going to the bar. Well after getting home he argued with me like I did something wrong I was completely calm no yelling no doing anything I was actually ready to let it go. Well thing is he ended up breaking up with me saying so many things that truly hurt me. I'm going to list them * If I wasn't with you I'd have everything I wanted a brand new truck a jet ski but no I'm stuck paying rent and bills. * I'm 21 years old I wanna come home when I want or not come home at all. * I wanna go out to my friends colleges and party with girls I don't know. * I need something new * I F**cking hate having to take care of a kid that's not mine, I don't want to have to teach him anything he's not mine. (he would always say he loved my son he loved teaching him new things and what not so that was the hardest thing to hear) *You know what I gave up for you.... I gave up the girl I was talking to before you she was amazing she loved everything about me she liked the things i like such as football (I'm not the biggest football fan although I was trying my hardest to learn just for him) she had a good job she even made more money than I do. *I still love Sabrina (his ex) There is a lot more than that, but surprisingly I stayed calm through it all I did cry a bit while I was gathering my belongings, but mainly because my son was crying saying he didn't want to leave that he loved him but my spouse straight up told my son "I don't want y'al here anymore, I don't want to be your daddy anymore.) which crushed his little heart and he broke down crying. Fortunately my son's dad was picking him up for the weekend so he came by and pretty much after my son left my spouse was like "damn it I don't know what to do....... order a pizza I'm hungry" in my head I was like really that's what your going to say, I went on and said "Ok but ill be in the other room getting the rest of my things together" his response was "your not going anywhere unpack your things and order the pizza, if you wanna work things out" I did as he said and without saying anything about what was said the night ended. The next morning I was expecting some apologies or to talk about what he had said but nothing instead he kept treating me horrible he was cold towards me and I was the same because of course i cant just bounce back from what was said, although he expects me to just let it go and act like it was never said. At the end of the day I do not think that I can ever see him the same again I lost respect and love for him after all that, but deep down I'm angry for the way he treated me for the way he treated and talked to my child, I let him step all over us and did nothing or say nothing. At the moment we are still together but I feel like I need revenge on him I know its the wrong way to do things. What do I do I'm confused. And revenge I mean in acting the same way he did acting like i don't care for him, not letting my child get close to him not needing his help for a single thing when it comes to my child (I know that will bother him)
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