Confucius Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 There is a girl that I've been infatuated with since the middle of August and we've been been friends for at least two years now. I asked her if she wanted to see a movie a few weeks ago and she said "Isn't that like a date, I don't think I feel that way about you...I'm sorry if I mislead you". This past Thursday, I asked her if she wanted help volunteer with me and this time she said "Okay....but not like a date ok!", that night I went on and typed out a extremely long message say that I like her among other things. The next day she found me and we had a talk. She likes me as a friend and doesn't want to make this awkward so she asked if there was anything she could do to make it less awkward. Even after that, we still talked and text each other like it was normal but now it's out there that I'm attracted to her. I don't even know where to go from here.
heather_1 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Sorry to hear about your situation. The same thing happened to me a while back when I asked out a friend. Chances are she feels more awkward than you. Its up to you to be a man and show that you can deal with her rejecting you and that there are 'plenty more fish in the sea.' Just go and talk to her like nothing has happened, show that you don't feel awkward and she will feel at ease. 1
homjung Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 She isnt attracted to you, do seriously move on. You can find other friends to hang out with. Since u like her in that way u need to stay far away from her & stop putting urself through the pain of her not wanting u. And one thing means you are in love with her. Good luck. 1
Author Confucius Posted September 24, 2012 Author Posted September 24, 2012 And one thing means you are in love with her. Good luck. What exactly do you mean by this? It's kinda got me confused.
veggirl Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 She has told you at least 2x she is not interested in you beyond friendship. If you're cool with just friends then carry on but don't go into a "friendship" expecting to change her mind or win her over.
MonsterMash Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Stop giving her attention and start dating someone else and she'll throw herself at you. Especially if she sees you having such a good time.
Author Confucius Posted September 24, 2012 Author Posted September 24, 2012 I'm not really interested in anyone else right now. No other girls have I known for that long or even quite know at all.
bob the brave Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Homjung is right, move on. Sorry, but don't mistake her kindness for attraction. She said NO twice. You could do as MonsterMash suggested and, knowing girls' egos, it just might work. But that will only get you a date or two till her ego is mended. After that she will dump you. First instict is usually right. She is just no that into you. So, now go find someone that does!
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