Quiet Storm Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Most women date with the end goal being a serious relationship. A lot of men date just for the experience of it. They genuinely enjoy spending time with the woman. They'll take her out, talk all night and really seem to be fostering a connection...and still not want to be in a serious relationship with her. They live in the moment. This can be confusing for many women because we usually assume that men are dating because they are looking for a serious relationship. We think they have the same motivations that we do. Most men would not see it as leading someone on, because they don't realize that women's motivations are different, as well. They are just having fun, and from his perspective, she is having fun, too. He doesn't see anything wrong with two people spending time together, and doesn't understand why she assumes that because he likes her he wants to be serious. He doesn't consider her expectations, and that often leads to a disappointed woman. Some men are looking for "forever". Some men are just looking for "right now". Some men are looking for "the one", but will happily enjoy the company of other women until he finds her. This guy may have genuinely liked you and your company, but decided that you are not "the one". This doesn't negate the fact that he likes you. You just had different expectations from the relationship, and he was considerate by breaking up with you, as he knows that prolonging it may just make you feel more hurt and disappointed. 2
mortensorchid Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 THat sounds like a bunch of nonsense to me. He was just looking for a way out. Someone pulled that with me a year ago or so, he said he was trying to get over someone else from 6 mos ago. He said he wanted to be friends still, but we aren't. He has a new gf and I think they live together now. So much for hurting from the past. Ah well, such is my decission to hang it up.
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