I thought he was my sweet bay until one day i called the cell and his wife picked up

[bigboydsgirl]

hi i am a teen and i met this 29 year old on the internet,well at first it was all fun like cyersex or whatever which i regret then one day he came back and told me he wanted to love me,so being the young age i was which was 14 i accepted.He made me feel like a new person,loved and everything.I asked him was he married when we first started taling and he told me no i asked dis he have kids and he said no.So later on in our relationship things started happening i would ask him was he cheating on me ,he would say no then tell me the girl name.So i wrote one girl and asked her what he said about me and she told me that he said he was in love with a fourteen year old.I was like okay cool.

 

Something else was soon to happen he came out and told me he was divorced and had three kids girls and he wanted to tell me so when w get married i would know where his money was going.Yea he ask me to marry him,he wanted me to give him his first son.He told me he was a man that own his own busines and had it going on and that he would build me my own house and that he was in love with me.I believed it!He wanted to come down and be with me and im like yea we can go to the movies and dinner and he was like well im not just coming all the way there just for that,i should have left then.

 

He would always talk nasty and say he was going to do this and that and im like yea he must not have a wife he talking like dat.But sometimes when we talked he told me he would be working and when we cybered he would be pulled over and u know.So i kept bugging asking him if he was married and he would get mad and tell me his wife left becuz he ddnt have time for her and the kids.He told me he promised not to do that with me though and our kids.So i believed again.

To cut it short i called his cellphone a day or two after he told me again im in love with u and i dnt want nobody else,and to my surpise guess who answered?Yep wife,she was like who is dis and telling me not to call her husband and im like husband,husband!And it was a whole lt of mess after that.He never called me again and i havent heard from him since.The affair lasted about three months.Its really ashame how older men take advantage of your girls sometimes,and are married at that.But its not his fault its mine too but that reall hurts and im sorry for his wife,becuz her husband is a no good!

[Adunaphel]

This man should be in jail.

 

And your parents should take the internet connection away from you.

 

The cyberspace is a **dangerous** place expecially for a 14 years old, you can meet a good number of creeps and even worse. And you shouldn't be having cybersex at your age.

 

I'm sorry about what happened to you, but cybersex is not a game suitable for a 14 years old.

Neither is hooking up with guys on the internet.

Sounds like you took all that happened very lightheartedly, do you *actually* realize that this guy whould have had sex with you if given the possibility? Do you realize fully what it means? Even if this man was single, he'd still be a sick pervert.

 

I suggest you get a real life in *real* world, and start looking at guys your own age. Internet chatrooms are not a place for you.

[Kizzyfur]

Would this happen to be the same guy who you're worried about might be cheating on you with other women online?? Or are you "cheating" on that other guy with this guy??

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t43948/

 

Anyway, at your age you shouldn't be messing around with 29 year old men. If this story is true, you're probably lucky his wife answered the phone and things didn't go any farther. Don't you watch the news?? Hell, you hear about kids getting killed by men they "fall in love with" from the internet. Not before they're raped mind you. It's not a game. You should be out getting involved in sports or something like that.

[bigboydsgirl]

hey i have a real life and my boyfriend who i think is cheating on me is not the same guy and i didnt cheat on him.Yes i watch the news all da time,and at that time i realy didnt think noting of it,ihad my boyfriend who lives in the same state i live in and i was like oh just chattin.Yea i knw cybersex is not for my age but im not that age and i regret it anyway but only one can judge me.Im into a lot of things it was just i had a cellphone that had this little internet thing.I can get a boyfriend no problem with that but i just was trying to see things.I just made some dumb mistakes and u better believe my mom wanted him in jail but i tried to keep it on the low.But it just hurts thinking about it and i knw people are gonna say what they want to ay but i have learned my lesson and i am learning more.

[bigboydsgirl]

And yea i should have not been talikg to a 29year old but i didnt think nothing of it,but he was the adult.But im really rethinking alot of things now with the guy now,your replies hurt but really helps

[bigboydsgirl]

and it wasnt a chat room, i love my *real* life in the *real world*

[Karlise13]

A man who likes to talk 'nasty' to 14 year old girls and wants to hook up with them at age 29

 

IS A PEDOPHILE

[bigboydsgirl]

thats true

[dyermaker]

Thank God his wife answered.

 

Do you keep logs of your incriminating chats? If they're explicit enough, give them to the police.

[bigboydsgirl]

no i nt it was all on the cell he told me he kept them but that happen in the past i was just sharing and seeing what people might say i mean all say all these things like get in the real world but u can be in the real world and still chat on your cell if its availble but it happened yea thats good she did catch it but im ova that or gettin over it,it was just somethin i was going through

[Mr Spock]

Originally posted by Karlise13

A man who likes to talk 'nasty' to 14 year old girls and wants to hook up with them at age 29

 

IS A PEDOPHILE

 

Actually, the term "Pedophile" is incorrect. Pedophiles are attracted to pre-pubescent children.

 

http://www.paedosexualitaet.de/pedo/def.html

 

 

http://www.ageofconsent.com/comments/pedophile.htm

 

http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

 

Regardless, the original poster doesn't sound mature enough to be having sex with herself, much less other people. Actually, I retract that. The ONLY person she should be having sex with is herself. Are you on birth control of any kind? Do you use condoms? If you're sharing your story because you feel proud for porking a 29 year old, then you're porking for the wrong reasons. You were used, like a piece of kleenex after a particularly satisfying masturbatory session. Use your head.

[bigboydsgirl]

excuse me but i think u got it wrong first off i am mature anough and second i dnt need birth control because i dnt have sex and iwasnt use like a kleenex at all okay?Now im posting and shared my story just like everybody else shares their story so dnt be saying oh she is not mature and all that becuz its alot of womwn that would have stayed and just have been the other woman.SO u might say im not nature even to have sex with myself oh well because you dnt knw me and you dnt knw my life story so dnt try to judge.And nobody said i feel proud i feel hurt and no i didnt prok anybody,i was just sharing my story on how he cheated and thats all.

[swtbonita]

why would you even consider dating a 29 year old?.. what did you think he was after? a relationship? Well all i know is that if you came to loveshack on the first day that you met this guy you would have had the same comments. A 14 year old teenager should not be talking to men.. they should be talking to teenagers.. And the reason they should be talking to teenagers their age is for reasons like this..

 

First off anyone could get a bf, especially if she starts having cybersex on the internet, because the man would think he would get it in person..

 

Secondly, only go out with people your age because you don't know how to handle older men..

 

and thirdly.. you are getting mad at people on loveshack for giving you these responses.. but what were you expecting.. you admit it was wrong of you to do these things at that age and you are getting mad at people for agreeing with you.. just think (i'm assuming youhave grown up a bit) if you saw a 14 year old girl telling her friends that she just had cyber sex with a 29 year old... would you stand by it or would you try to talk some sense into her...

 

if you would stand by it, then you haven't grown up...

[bigboydsgirl]

no im not getting mad and i would tell her what iwent through i mean i date people my own age but honestly i dindt think i would like him like dat and i thought i was just havin fun or whatever thats all i understand where u and the other people are coming from i apperciate that a lot.But i knw i wasnt suspose to be talking to him but im only human and a lot of us do things we wasnt suspose to do and that was one.I thank everybody for what they said though.

[Mr Spock]

Ok, so you're trying to share what with us then? The fact that you had some kind of sexual contact with a 30 year old man? Or that your heart is broken because he dumped your arse when you accidentally called his wife? Or that men will hump pretty much anything (if there is grass on the field, play ball) Just not quite sure what you're getting at.

[shortbus74]

Did anyone stop to think that this person who posted this thread is looking for ANY attention regardless of what form it comes in? Sheesh.....

 

This is the reason why you spend time with your children instead of having the internet babysit them why you go on about your life..............

[bigboydsgirl]

No way im not looking for attention at all really advice.And thats what i thought this site was a advice site not a put u down site!I get a lot of attention so no going online babysits me i saw this site and i was like maybe i could get advice thats about it.I saw other forums and i needed advice from someone elese point of view also or if that happen to someone,i mean you didnt have to comment on my topic but im thankful you did and your comments are appreciated but i was just looking for advice,im new here maybe i got the wrong feeling or somethinng about this.

[bigboydsgirl]

i mean anybody heart would be broken but im not even broken on being dumped asu say that doesnt affect me.And sexual contact okkkkkkkay no!ITs just a topic.man

[Mr Spock]

Yes but you're not really asking for advice, at least not that I can understand

[bigboydsgirl]

well sorry i posted this when i first started on here,truly sorry.

[ICantStopLovinHim]

I feel bad because noone should have to feel sorry for being honest here. Maybe bigboydsgirl its just we are all probably a little older than you, and its easy to picture you as our 14 year old. The best advice anyone can tell you is to be carefull....thats it just be carefull....

[shortbus74]

Don't be sorry for posting, but what advice are you seeking? Do you really think that anyone in their right mind would say this relationship is alright and acceptable by todays standards that socieity lives by?

 

I know that if I found out my 14 year daughter was in a relationship with a 29 year old man, I would have no hesitation to call the police and report this man. I would also have no hesitation calling his wife and telling her what her husband is doing with my child.

[bigboydsgirl]

i understand what yall or saying.Yeah the relationship wasnt right at all.I look back and im like really what could i when i when i was fourteen give him that a grown woman couldnt you knw.I guess he was just a sick minded person.But when someone says they love you and they care about you when you are really depressed about the past,its like they are there for u u just have to put yorself in my shoes.But im happy that its over.