Ex and I are over, he's committing himself to hospital, but doesn't

[Brickroll]

Our relationship had not been good for at least 3 months. He routinely ignored my emotional needs while I was going through a depressive state. (I have mental illness and he knows this. I try not be too unreasonable about it) He out right avoided me when I was begging him to spend time with me and the isolation that I felt only made the depression worst. We were living together, but we hardly ever interacted.

 

So 4 days ago, I ask him to wake me up from a nap, so we'll be able spend time before he had to go to sleep himself. But he didn't. Why? Because the football game that was on was more important. Obviously I was insulted. And I told him how I felt, and all he had to say was "Well, it was a good game." Barely even tried to smooth things over with me. He just hopped on the computer and didn't say a word to me until he went to sleep.

 

I was fuming for the rest of the night. Couldn't sleep at all. From like 1 am-9 am. I got bored and decided to watch tv and my blood sugar had took a step drop, so I was light head and dizzy and tripped over him while I was getting something to eat. This woke him up and we got into an argument that ended with him telling me was chatting up some new girl instead of waking me up the previous night. So I slapped him and left the house to get away from the situation. He didn't even stop me, even though I told him my blood sugar was low.

 

I come back he tells me he's going into in patient treatment at mental hospital for a week or so because he "can't handle all the fighting." I asked him "What have we been fighting about for the last three month?" "About me not spending time with you." he said. Duh. And he has the nerve to tell me that he only said that he's got a new girlfriend because he was mad at me like that's some excuse. It's not. You don't tell the person you claim to love and intend to marry that you are seeing someone behind their back because you are mad at them. And I don't by that he is not scoping out a new girlfriend, either.

 

"We should take a break and then try to work on us when I get out" he said. Except he had told me multiple times that breaks don't exist and that I ever requested a break it's the of the relationship. I repeated what he told me and he said "Well, that only counts when someone tells that to me."

 

That when I just got it, he doesn't respect me.

 

He then tells me I can't stay in the house by myself while he's gone. I told him I had no other place to go and he wouldn't listen to me. I was tired, physically and emotionally so I barely put up a fight. I went to sleep and I woke up he tells me I have to leave because he going soon. I told him again "I have nowhere to go." I said "We talk about this yesterday". No we didn't "talk" about anything. He decided. He does this all the time. He makes decisions and plans and either don't tell me about or don't care to listen, ask, or even consider my option. I left me my mom's place. I really don't want to be here. It's pretty filthy and children get dumped on me all the time.

 

So I had avoided facebook for the last few days. And yesterday my mom told me that he's been uploading photos. I thought to myself for a second "Well, he committed himself voluntarily and isn't in a crappy hospital, so maybe he's doing it from his phone?" Then I mentally slap myself because he doesn't have a internet capable phone and these photos were uploaded at 10 pm. His most recent activity was at midnight this sunday. I couldn't help it. I messaged him demanded an explanation for this bull. I'm waiting to here he's excuses now. I don't feel bad about it. He still has some of my possessions. So I'm justified to ask for them back.

 

TL;DR: Ex and me got into a fight. He says he's leaving for a mental hospital on Saturday, and I have to leave, so I dumped him. Except he posted photos on his wall at 10 pm that night and most recent activity was 12 midnight on a Sunday.

[loveunlimited]

to say this relationship is dysfunctional doesn't even begin to cover it. send someone round for your stuff and never, ever talk to him again, you don't need him, you don't depend on him and he is clearly not healthy for you. stop this insanity and get real. cut him off completely don't ever speak or engage in any kind of dialogue with him, at all, ever.

[Brickroll]

to say this relationship is dysfunctional doesn't even begin to cover it. send someone round for your stuff and never, ever talk to him again, you don't need him, you don't depend on him and he is clearly not healthy for you. stop this insanity and get real. cut him off completely don't ever speak or engage in any kind of dialogue with him, at all, ever.

 

The thing is no one would be willing to go get my stuff. He lives in the suburbs of the city, and no one I knows lives anywhere close to him. The cops in the district he lives in are notoriously lazy and don't care for domestic issues and my stuff doesn't meet the requirement for small claims. I wasn't on the lease, so as far as anyone is concerned I never lived there.

 

My options are convince him to ship them to me, or get them myself.

[loveunlimited]

The thing is no one would be willing to go get my stuff. He lives in the suburbs of the city, and no one I knows lives anywhere close to him. The cops in the district he lives in are notoriously lazy and don't care for domestic issues and my stuff doesn't meet the requirement for small claims. I wasn't on the lease, so as far as anyone is concerned I never lived there.

 

My options are convince him to ship them to me, or get them myself.

then go get them yourself but take someone with you and have them stand 'witness and protector' do not talk to him. just go in get your stuff and leave, say goodbye and block him off. do yourself a favour if you are not a well person already do you really need this added worry and bother, please, get real darling.

[Brickroll]

then go get them yourself but take someone with you and have them stand 'witness and protector' do not talk to him. just go in get your stuff and leave, say goodbye and block him off. do yourself a favour if you are not a well person already do you really need this added worry and bother, please, get real darling.

 

I don't have a emotion pillar right now. My support was him. I will have to go by myself, and I cannot face him alone. It would be too hard to do. We were together for two years and he was first and only love. He was fiance and we were planning to get married next year.

[loveunlimited]

he is not an emotional pillar he is a drain on your resources, you just don't treat someone you love who's sick in that way, that's not love.

Get someone reliable to go with you, and instruct them; they have to prevent discussion, argument and any stupid chatter, just get your stuff and go, who he is - is not who you think he is. there is nothing to lean on there, he's not an emotional pillar. he's not on your side.

[Brickroll]

he is not an emotional pillar he is a drain on your resources, you just don't treat someone you love who's sick in that way, that's not love.

Get someone reliable to go with you, and instruct them; they have to prevent discussion, argument and any stupid chatter, just get your stuff and go, who he is - is not who you think he is. there is nothing to lean on there, he's not an emotional pillar. he's not on your side.

I don't have any friends and my family all have there own lives. I could get my mother to come on a weekend, but she'll end up cursing him out. It wouldn't be any more helpful than just going alone. I don't even know if he's even still at same address.

 

I'm using chrome and it syncs up with email address and he uses the browser too. I guess I forgot to unsynced my email address with his browser and he didn't realize it, because it lists him as being in county way out of the city. He doesn't have a laptop or a tablet. I had no intention of snooping, I just noticed the pop-up. I didn't message him about, because that would be stupid. He would just get defensive and block me and I would have no way to get my stuff. This isn't relevant, but I just wanted to explain how I knew that he wasn't in the same place.

 

I sounds pretty crazy, and I really should have just deleted my facebook profile, so I wouldn't be tempted to look into this farther.