Was planning on asking co-worker out, boss cock-blocked me, wondering how to proceed

[Emissary]

So there's this girl I've worked with for the past half year. We've pretty much always gotten along, always very playful, though she was typically insistent that we keep the flirting to an absolute minimum since she had a boyfriend. Maybe a couple of months ago, I noticed she was in a distressed state, I asked if she was ok, she said she was. Later in the day she said she wants to break up with her boyfriend, that he's abusive and possibly relapsed into drugs.

 

Long story short, I did her some favours by covering a couple shifts of hers so she could break up with him and move her stuff out ASAP. Shortly after, I settled a workplace dispute between her and another co-worker in her favour. After all of this, the flirting just exploded, we just couldn't stay away from each other.

 

I know well enough that just because a girl flirts with you doesn't always mean she's interested in you, even if she does most of the flirting. But I found myself in a position where I definitely felt comfortable making a move (I'm much more cautious with co-workers for obvious reasons). I had this perfect little scenario plotted out in my head. She was heading to Disneyland for two weeks with her family, she really appreciated everything I did for her and said she's going to buy me a Donald Duck doll or something.

 

When she came back and gave me the doll, I was going to accept it, but state I should take her out to dinner as a thank you, or something to that effect. Problem is, she isn't coming back, at least not to my workplace. My boss, for reasons unknown, decided to transfer her to a different location in town without telling anybody, not even her.

 

I'm just wondering how to proceed now. Maybe I can wait it out, if she bought me something, she will naturally seek me out to give it to me, I could easily just go from there as if nothing happened. Maybe she didn't buy me anything, I could seek her out at the other store, maybe exchange phone numbers at least, or just go for it on the spot. I could add her on Facebook and try from there, or maybe just text her and see what happens. (I have her number, just I got it from the office at work, I wouldn't want to use it until we actually exchange numbers.)

 

I'm just wondering, if she's interested in me, would she seek me out as well, or am I to take the initiative?

[SoleMate]

Try writing a memo to HR, letting them know that you consider the job transfer of your co-worker to be a "cock-block", as opposed to, say, a move motivated by the company's needs and interests and a step in her career development, and I think you will find that your workplace issues are quickly resolved.

 

Or better yet, just leave her alone, get your mind back on your work.

[loveunlimited]

Better yet, ask for a meeting with your boss, register your displeasure at his cock-blocking you, tell him you find his jealousy petty and that you intend to complain to HR, copy them in on all correspondence and make sure you keep a careful record of the meeting, take a witness.

This is serious, because it is obvious that his jealousy has caused him to make a perfectly rational and reasonable decision off his own back, for the benefit of the company without feeling he needs to consult you, that's very mean. ~facepalm~

 

why do you think you have the right to know the reasons, are you abslolutely certain she knew absolutely nothing about this, moving someone to a different sector let alone a different branch is not normally done without prior agreement consultation and discussion, that's ridiculous. I'm sure she must have known and not told you. I agree with the above poster, you need to focus.