Tech76 Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Would you consider marrying an older guy....say 20 years older if you would end up financially secure? This might be a problem if the guy was 70. What are your thoughts?
Adunaphel Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 If he was also handsome, extremely intelligent, sweet and caring, with an amazing personality, a great sense of humour, without habits I find upsetting and looking a little younger than his actual age I *might* consider marrying him in spite of the age difference.
MorningRose Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 I would... well actually I did. I dates someone 17 years my senior a few years ago. And hey, a 50 year old woman dating a 70 year old guy doesn't look so bad, right? Try -- 12 and 32. Does that offer of financial stability include years of good conversation? If yes, I am in.
moimeme Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 If he's a wonderful guy, sure, but it would be for the wonderfulness, not for the financial security.
dudesomewhere Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 if it's just for the financial security...what's the word we're looking for?
moimeme Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 I think everyone's made it quite clear that it wouldn't be just for that.
marribell Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 I think no. I am 30 and cannot imagine having sex with 50 years old man. To marry in general because of financial security...maybe... never say never... But at least I can say that I was suggested almost 10 years before to marry a person who had lots of money and I prefered to marry someone who had no cent and I lived poorest life one can imagine. Probably I was stupid, young but I am not sorry. I am proud of what I accomplished by myself now.
CurlyIam Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 20 years is too much for me ! 10 years is too much for me ! Even 5, now that I think of it. But then love knows no age difference... so anyway, a rational answer to this rational question is... no way!
sweetadeline Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Two friends of mine in their 40s are with men in their 60s. Both of the relationships seem to work--and I know that one of the women, in particular, has never been happier.
reasontosigh Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Someone 20 years older would be around 65 in my case. If he's got a great personality and can keep up with me (and I'm talking both in and out of bed!) I guess I would consider it. Meanwhile I'd have to find a way to subtly let down all the guys that are 20 years younger that have been chasing me around!
Author Tech76 Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 Thanks for your replies. This is a new forum for me and I must say that I find it interesting.
dyermaker Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 For financial security, I'd marry a 90 year old guy!
moimeme Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 For financial security, I'd marry a 90 year old guy! I'm sure that could be arranged And Dyer, would you for heaven's sakes fix the dang code in your dang sig?
dyermaker Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme And Dyer, would you for heaven's sakes fix the dang code in your dang sig? Sorry, I must have accidentally deleted said dang code when I was removing a certain off-color, and, I'm assured, true remark about one of our beloved posters.
moimeme Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 True? Ok, bud. You. Outside. Shellfish and creepeth creatures at twenty paces. Who ever becomes abomination first loses
dyermaker Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I certainly meant to say "untrue", I'm very sorry about that. The administrator has specified that you can only edit messages for 20 minutes after you have posted. This limit has expired, so you must contact the administrator to make alterations on your message. Drat!
moimeme Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 What? No shellfish duel? Oh well. They're kinda slimy anyhoo. Just figuring you were pulling my chain, hon. No worries! This: "one of our beloved posters" mitigated all potential injury
thecake Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I honestly can't predict how I'll view things in 10 years. Right now I would say no.
HokeyReligions Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Would you consider marrying an older guy....say 20 years older if you would end up financially secure? This might be a problem if the guy was 70. What are your thoughts? Had it been my first marriage --- probably not. However, if I were ever to marry again---I would marry a man of any age if he could provide financial security. The only thing that would put a damper on the whole thing (at least momentarily) would be if here were violent/abusive. In that case, I'd have his ass in jail and live off the money! (If I didn't kill him in self-defense first) Love isn't everything. Until you have been homeless; hounded by creditors because of debt (medical bills were over $250,000 at one time and we lost everything); and lived in fear of losing everything; and/or working when you are sick and in pain and exhausted because you HAVE to, you have no idea how that can wear a person down and change a person's perspective. Hell yes, financial security beats romance or conversation or companionship any day.
simplybrill Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 20?? I have a problem dating, let alone possibly marrying guys who are only 10 years older than myself. Then again, given that im in my early 20's, this is probably why. Financial security, is good...but so is happiness and love, and I dont see myself physically attracted to a guy who's 20 years my senior, and that's a factor in the love department with me.
funluvncpl Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I personally was married to a man that was 21 years older than me. The first 5 years were wonderful. But he thought he should treat me like he was my father instead of my husband. 3 years later we divorced and I haven't been the same since. It really left it's mark on me. So only marry if you feel you can treat her with respect and dignity through the entire marriage. A marriage license is only a piece of paper your heart you have to deal with for life.
pitprincess Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 I wouldn't marry for any amount of money. Money has no meaning to me when it comes to marriage.
havNfun Posted August 3, 2004 Posted August 3, 2004 [color=blue]don't most of us get divorced and then marry some arm candy 1/2 our own age after we mature "financially" enough to do so?????[/color]
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