hellodearest Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 My ex and I have broke up 4 times, we've been dating for about two years. Each time for the same reason, she isn't "in love" with me and feels like I'm more of a best friend. Each time we get back together, she does all the right things, first breadcrumbs, which I ignore, and then an outright apology, telling me she wants me and this is usually followed by a honeymoon period of 6 months where she shows me a lot of affection and talks about our future. Each break up has been devastating, and each time she comes back, the relationship is stronger than the time before it. She moved across the country to stay with me before the first time we broke up. A week ago we were talking marriage and babies, and a few days ago, I asked her if she was truly happy, and she was honest and told me she still had doubts. It seems like things are changing slowly, but does this ever change? Every time we break up it's usually for a only a few weeks, usually starts NC and then LC. We haven't had a long period of NC ever and I don't know if this might change things and get her really considering the consequences of everything. She's a good person, and very broken up abut this as well. I'm just wondering if anyone has experienced a change like this? The companionship, the sex, the jokes, the spontaneity are all there, she just feels like there's 'something' missing.
church9832 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Life has a funny way in testing you. If she keep coming back for the right reasons, I say keep trying. But if you keep breaking up, you two need to REALLY talk about where you're both headed and honestly find a conclusion. Constantly breaking up is not a healthy relationship in itself, when you can't find common ground on this problem, you're not really breaking up. Your prolonging the pain. A couple that constantly breaks up and gets back together, thats not a break up. Breaking up is knowing that its over and you're never going to get back together ever in your mind. Life might bring you back together but thats only healthy if its like a long long time where you two have changed your lives but not your love for each other
yoman38 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I honestly think that you should really give her space, and just focus on your own life it's unfair for her to keep breaking up with you and then coming back, you should acknowledge the idea that perhaps she just isn't ready for something serious but she is pushing it cause she thinks you're a great person. Just take it easy man and see what happens I would've been out a long time a ago.
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