mortensorchid Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I went out to dinner tonight with my best friend tonight, like we do most every Sunday. He and I went to our local regular location and we catch up on things we did all week, like we always do. Then I told him about my recent decission to unfriend two of the past bfs from Facebook. I posted on this before, I said that the last bf called to tell me (after he broke it off 7 mos ago) that he has a gf now and didn't want me to find out by reading the Facebook feed. That was about a month ago, and since then I said it was too painful to see all the postings about their having a wonderful time together and how much she loves him and she's riding this roller coaster life with him together, etc. The last real bf also got a new gf not long after dumping me (about a year ago) and is still with her. I decided enough is enough and it was just too painful. So I unfriended both of them. He said to me that I sure do pick weirdos, I was rather angry to hear him say that. He has also been with his fair share of losers, but I never say a word about it. One he even moved in with for a few weeks, then they had a big blow up and she left. She was a slug, some tormented artist type who pretended she was crazy in order to stay on SSI, and didn't drive a car. SHe was also jealous of me and him, but I never said a thing about it. It's ok for him not me, I guess.
Lonely Ronin Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 He said to me that I sure do pick weirdos, I was rather angry to hear him say that. He has also been with his fair share of losers, but I never say a word about it. One he even moved in with for a few weeks, then they had a big blow up and she left. She was a slug, some tormented artist type who pretended she was crazy in order to stay on SSI, and didn't drive a car. SHe was also jealous of me and him, but I never said a thing about it. It's ok for him not me, I guess. Maybe, just maybe he doesn't hold back since you are a good friend. In other words, he tells you what he think or thinks you need to hear, not what you want to hear/nothing. I did something really similar to a close female friend last year, she got pissed and didn't talk to me for like 3 months. The one night i got a text that said i was right and that she was sorry.
CptObvious Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 sensitive much? No wonder your bf got rid of you. Chill out.
SJC2008 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Sounds like you got offended by him saying you have a poor choice in men. Why? Sometimes you gotta take a step back and think outside of the box if you will. Since you got dumped by the las two men it's either something you don't bring to the table in a r, the men you pick, or you're punching out of you league and they date you utill the BBD comes along.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Really, it does sound like you pick horrible losers. Didn't you just post about the one who was a drunken bar brawler that needed to get bailed out of jail and more? It's exhausting to have a dear friend who repeatedly makes bad choices and then spends a lot of angst and energy recounting every horrible incident and complaining about it … and then going back for more. 4
CC12 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 It's exhausting to have a dear friend who repeatedly makes bad choices and then spends a lot of angst and energy recounting every horrible incident and complaining about it … and then going back for more. Yeah. It really is exhausting to have a friend like this. There's only so much advice you can offer a friend like this (usually they're not honestly looking for advice anyway) and there's only so many times you can respond with, "Oh, that's terrible." "Uh-huh." "You poor thing." OP, your friend was probably just trying to steer the conversation away from the subject of your exes. "Welp, you sure do pick weirdos. Pass the salt?" Seemed like a pretty innocuous statement anyway. Nothing to get angry over.
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