my ex has found someone new...

[lonelygirl97]

Please someone help me and my ex broke up a month ago, we had sex two weeks ago because I gave in..It was a dumb move on my part i know. When he left out of the room i looked in his phone and seen he had a female as his screensaver i was so hurt and asked him why did he come over to have sex with me when he knew he had already moved on..he replied in a very mean tone, you broke up with me so why do you care and just left..it hurt so bad i wish i wouldve never slept with him because all the feelings came back...I have been calling and texting him for the last two weeks well last night he said he wanted to work things out and he would see me early in the morning..once morning came and went I got no reply so I text and called him a few times..he replied back and said I will text you later chill out...So i texted him back and said if you have someone else just let me know and I will leave you alone I still got no reply well i missed a call from him and checked my voicemail it was a female calling from his number she said, leave us alone and lose this f@#!n number..Iam so hurt, humiliated and stressed that i dont know what to do..no matter what i cant stop crying and the pain will not go away.. I know i shouldve had no contact from the start but i couldnt help it, now i am looking like a desperate fool while he is happy and in love with someone else...can someone please tell me how they got over there ex that they still loved being with someone else can someone give me advice on how to get over this pain? I feel so hurt, stupid and depressed please someone help..thanks

[GoneToCode]

Sorry to hear that. It always hurts so much when someone you have feelings for moves on.

What they did was crummy. It sounds impossible, but hopefully you can just pretend this person no longer exists in your world.

 

It will get better with time.

 

Do you have anyone you can talk to face to face?

[love does not exist]

Ain't really nothing you can do. Have to wait for the feelings to pass. The guy did degrade you tho. I'd be feeling pretty ****ed up too.

 

Hang in there, gonna be a bumpy ride.

[suladas]

Honestly, you are in a better spot then a lot of better, including me had. You know he's moved on and is with someone else, now you don't have to worry about contacting him or wondering what if. Best to cut off all contact and get rid of anything that reminds you of him.

 

It sucks for a while not going to lie. But just takes it a day at a time and it gets better. It's been just over 2 months and I still think about her everyday but it does get better and less and less everyday.

 

The best thing to do is go on with your life as usual, and go out and spend time with family and friends keep yourself busy.

[carhill]

Welcome to LS

 

My sympathies. Concur with the advice to focus on family and friends and will add to read the thread linked in my signature. It'll help with the healing process. Good luck.

[lonelygirl97]

Thanks for all of the wonderful words of encouragement..I realized last night that it was time to put it all behind me and I am already starting to feel so much better...I know time heals wounds but I am gonna be able to move on faster than I thought because I realize I dont deserve to be used, and mistreated...I am sticking to Nc and will never text or call him again in life.. I broke up with him initially because he was a liar but I relasped when we had sex and all the feelings came back but I am ready to go on and put it behind me..I know some people might not believe that i am strong enough to move on this fast but i am, its been a month of trying to get him back but after he used me for sex and let his girlfriend disrespect me i realized quickly that it was finally over...I cant force someone to love me or want to be with me, if i sit here depressed, sad and miserable, that means i am still letting him control my life..I am for sure going to find stuff to do to keep myself busy so i wont think about him..Thanks again for all the wonderful replies!

[suladas]

That's the perfect attitude to have! Go out there and find someone better.

[lonelygirl97]

Welcome to LS

 

My sympathies. Concur with the advice to focus on family and friends and will add to read the thread linked in my signature. It'll help with the healing process. Good luck.

 

I read the thread linked to your signature and it was very excellent..I wish I wouldve seen it a month ago but it will help me out alot regardless..

[Svet74]

First of all he is not over you and moved on to someone else. because if he was he would not be over sleeping with you, while being with the new girl. U gave him the permission too, and he lost respect for you, and since u were physco calling him, he just got an ego boost from it. Give it a month. Once he doesnt hear from you, he will be calling you in no time.

 

Just dont be stupid and give in this time or you will have to start over. And ignore his calls.

 

If he ever wants you back. He will leave you a message and say so

[lonelygirl97]

First of all he is not over you and moved on to someone else. because if he was he would not be over sleeping with you, while being with the new girl. U gave him the permission too, and he lost respect for you, and since u were physco calling him, he just got an ego boost from it. Give it a month. Once he doesnt hear from you, he will be calling you in no time.

 

Just dont be stupid and give in this time or you will have to start over. And ignore his calls.

 

If he ever wants you back. He will leave you a message and say

I think he wants to be with his new girlfriend but he wants to have me on the side for sex but I refuse to be disrespected again looking like the fool..so NC is the best way because your right if I have sex with him again I will be right back to square one depressed and sad again..I am just gonna continue to move on..