cak36 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I have been seeing a lady who came out of a verbally abusive relationship that she said the man was mean to her.We flirted almost a year and she finally asked me to go out.Everything went great for a few months and all of the sudden her ex came back and she said she wasn't over him. I even met her family over the fourth of july and it went great.When she told me she was not over him she said she would still like to be friends and maybe we could still go out to a movie or something. I know she still has feelings because I still see her almost every day and caught her once and when she heard my voice her head snapped around to see me and made eye contact and smiled.I just hope someone has some advice because she is really so sweet and confused I don't think she realizes what she could be giving up.For now I'm not pressuring her and am always upbeat and happy when I talk to her.She did tell me when we broke up that a lot of people were going to be upset with her for this.....I think she meant her family and friends.If anyone has any experience or advice I would appreciate it.
love does not exist Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 They always go back to the one who treats them like ****. The nice guy always loses out. Just leave her.
MonsterMash Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 In the words of the band Iron Maiden...... "Run to the hills! Run for your lives!" 1
church9832 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 You got to make the ultimatium with her. You have as much right to speak your mind to the other as she has when she said she has feelings for her ex. It's a two way streak. The saying goes: Let them go, and if its true love they will come back eventually. There's taking care of another, and then there's taking care of yourself. It's not selfish if the other is being selfish too. You'll be there for her, you'll love her but she'll eventually see that she wants her ex more. You need to talk it over, not scream about it but talk over it. A Shouting match may bring out the worst in both of you. Make your feelings available to her and if she accepts them, thats love. If you don't say anything and brush it off because you're scared of the relationship breaking, then you're not heading the same direction. Imagine a that you two are driving a car each, you lose her and you can't find her. What do you do? You call and see where she is so you can catch up to her. Its almost the same thing. Just know what to say and she'll give you the directions you need
kae Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Ok a nice guy and a pushovers are two different things.. I love nice guys .. polite respectful kind generous affectionate... what are you talking about??? Im not a fan of pushovers.. tolerate tolerate tolerate suppress suppress suppress whine whine whine.. ya no im a woman..hehe.. just stop talking to her. dont even say bye. bye can be interperted as please stop me. she may be confused but her desire is for her former lover. to create a desire for you you need to exit.. leave it that way and build a desperation in her...if your lucky .. if not its still good cuz u want a woman to want you not need you. Plus it help you define clear limits to acceptable behaviour. ahhh i need to listen to myself
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