Is dating becoming more messed up generation after generation?.

[Necromancer]

Let´s face it, people are mostly valued by what they are not for who they are.

 

I think dating is becoming more retarded with the years. Have you seen the 10 year olds? They are so full of ego. (at least where i live)

 

This rainbow fairy tail pop mountain volcano is about to explode.

 

I think it´s leading more and more to where person is only valued for their looks,money and status.

 

So i am raising my LMS.

[CptObvious]

We need a few more wars to screw the kids up back in line. Gotta toughen em' up more and put them through some real ****.

[Woggle]

People in general are becoming more messed up. While I don't agree with a war just for it's own sake many people today are just way too pampered. If they had to go through the stuff people did during the depression era they would be so traumatized they would catatonic. I think most people need to go through some real stuff in order to put life in perspective.

[El Brujo]

To add to the mess, there are a lot more people who think it's their job to make the rules.

[Pyro]

Not sure if messed up are the words to use but things have become more complicated, or so I read on here.

 

Technology is a huge factor in terms of what is to blame. With texting, Facebook, and Twitter being huge and people using them more and more as their primary means of communication it makes people less use to communicating face to face or through a phone, thus making them less comfortable with communicating which we all know that bad communication is a disaster.

 

Bad parenting I blame as well. Irresponsible people having kids.

[MonsterMash]

Not sure if messed up are the words to use but things have become more complicated, or so I read on here.

 

Technology is a huge factor in terms of what is to blame. With texting, Facebook, and Twitter being huge and people using them more and more as their primary means of communication it makes people less use to communicating face to face or through a phone, thus making them less comfortable with communicating which we all know that bad communication is a disaster.

 

Bad parenting I blame as well. Irresponsible people having kids.

 

Totally agree. Go to a popular nightclub. The vast majority of the under 30 crowd have their noses buried in a cell phone. They take the obligatory, stupid "Look at me, I'm at da club!!!" photos....but spend little time actually socializing. Its weird. They post dumb stuff...and stalk their boyfriend/girlfriend online and flame each other back and forth......but their most significant face to face conversation all night is placing their drink order.

 

 

Its pathetic.

[Woggle]

When I go out I see people sitting across from each other and texting back and forth. I swear one day people will forget how to speak.

[Pyro]

Totally agree. Go to a popular nightclub. The vast majority of the under 30 crowd have their noses buried in a cell phone. They take the obligatory, stupid "Look at me, I'm at da club!!!" photos....but spend little time actually socializing. Its weird. They post dumb stuff...and stalk their boyfriend/girlfriend online and flame each other back and forth......but their most significant face to face conversation all night is placing their drink order.

 

Its pathetic.

 

:lmao:

Very true.

 

Starting to see the low to mid 30 year old's do that as well.

[carhill]

I don't think it's more messed up; rather more talked about in an instant and widely dispersed way. Individually, people have had the same elemental issues with interpersonal relationships and getting to know another person romantically long before the internet and all the other technologies which bring these stories to our screens. I still see friend's children and grandchildren and great grandchildren dating and getting married. Are things 'different' in some ways from my generation? Sure. I expect that. Elementally, though, it's still the same reproductive dance, IME.

[Wesker]

Not sure if messed up are the words to use but things have become more complicated, or so I read on here.

 

Technology is a huge factor in terms of what is to blame. With texting, Facebook, and Twitter being huge and people using them more and more as their primary means of communication it makes people less use to communicating face to face or through a phone, thus making them less comfortable with communicating which we all know that bad communication is a disaster.

 

Bad parenting I blame as well. Irresponsible people having kids.

 

Or worse, go to the mall. All the idiot teens, or 20 year olds are walking as slow as ****, with their head down, obsessed with their I -am-dumbphone5. With no thought, or awareness around them.

 

It does start with the moronic parents that give these 8 year olds cell phones. And for what? Just texting, and showing off? And today's society in which everyone is all about self promotion, and being that next YouTube hit.

[MonsterMash]

:lmao:

Very true.

 

Starting to see the low to mid 30 year old's do that as well.

 

Here's the really funny part. Pick a cute, say mid 20s female, who has her head buried in her phone. Walk up to her and say hi, and ask if you can buy her a drink. The deer in the headlights, "Oh no! Its a REAL penis!!" look is absolutely priceless.

[church9832]

I'm below 30 and I agree somewhat.

 

Its the under 18's (right now in 2012) that are ruined somewhat.

 

They never learned how to socialise alot and the stigma of being popular never left them.

 

Technology has also screwed them up, I do not believe in giving a child a facebook, a phone and a tablet before 12 years old, they're not outside having fun instead their outside on their technology.

 

Parents really need to step up and stop blaming things other than themselves. Sure companies give stuff, but parents are the ones to give them the choice.

[Pompom]

We need a few more wars to screw the kids up back in line. Gotta toughen em' up more and put them through some real ****.

Sure. Every 20-year-old Israeli has seen at least one war, and almost every able 18-year-old here is conscripted.

Also it so happens that so many Israelis suffer from some mental damage that it no longer stands out. Could be because when you're 18, holding an assault rifle, and having your friend's parts fly past you, or when you have war breathing down your neck all day, every day, you don't get screwed "back in line".

 

I agree however that being sheltered and pampered, does not make you a smarter person or gives any wisdom in life. Oh, so you know algebra. Okay.

 

I also agree that "social" media have made people anti-social or at least "incorrectly" social. I never wanted a Smartphone because I know how screen-addicted I can get and I don't want to be one of those "go out, talk to phone" people. Luckily I'm not addicted to my Smartphone, but many people really seem to have no idea how to have a good time without posting stuff.

Actually scientists say this is because publishing and sharing yourself with the world, has a similar effect on the brain as sex; it feels good and rewarding.

 

 

My personal pet peeve with modern dating is, how a few pedophiles and other rapists have destroyed not only their victim's life, but also peoples' faith in the purity of romantic interest.

I think there was a time when it was considered romantic and the stuff movies were made of, to, for example, hang out at a place near or where your crush comes daily, and lovingly watching them from a distance. Doing no harm, just looking, smiling, dreaming, and hoping for a chance or the courage to approach them.

Nowadays I hear people call this stalking, mental, creepy, etc. These words used to apply to peolpe with questionable intentions or who have already been rejected by the person of interest. Now everyone who sits in a coffee shop hoping that cute waiter or waitress is working, is a sicko. Very sad when such labels and suspicions are thrown at good people in love who are trying to ease in instead of go "modern Hollywood" by dragging their target into the nearest bathroom, having sex, and making them fall madly in love by ripping their clothes.

Unless it's immediately mutual, courting that way seems no longer permissible or sane. People look upon this as if a person in love having coffee somewhere and watching their person of interest get on the bus and getting a daily happy fix out of this, is like kidnapping and raping that person.

[Pyro]

Actually scientists say this is because publishing and sharing yourself with the world, has a similar effect on the brain as sex; it feels good and rewarding.

 

Wow that is so simple and so true. I am referring to those who have to post every waking moment of their day including what they are eating or what their alcoholic beverage of choice is.

 

The more that they share the less sex they are getting.

[Emilia]

I don't think it's more messed up; rather more talked about in an instant and widely dispersed way. Individually, people have had the same elemental issues with interpersonal relationships and getting to know another person romantically long before the internet and all the other technologies which bring these stories to our screens. I still see friend's children and grandchildren and great grandchildren dating and getting married. Are things 'different' in some ways from my generation? Sure. I expect that. Elementally, though, it's still the same reproductive dance, IME.

 

Absolutely

 

Immaturity, vanity, social skills issues, misplaced pride, etc are as old as human kind itself. What is an 18 year-old doing starting threads like this anyway? You already sound like my grandmother.

 

The dumbass that says wars are the answer 2 are going on currently that the US are involved in. How about joining in and opening your gob AFTERWARDS?

[Emilia]

Sure. Every 20-year-old Israeli has seen at least one war, and almost every able 18-year-old here is conscripted.

Also it so happens that so many Israelis suffer from some mental damage that it no longer stands out. Could be because when you're 18, holding an assault rifle, and having your friend's parts fly past you, or when you have war breathing down your neck all day, every day, you don't get screwed "back in line".

 

I agree however that being sheltered and pampered, does not make you a smarter person or gives any wisdom in life. Oh, so you know algebra. Okay.

 

I also agree that "social" media have made people anti-social or at least "incorrectly" social. I never wanted a Smartphone because I know how screen-addicted I can get and I don't want to be one of those "go out, talk to phone" people. Luckily I'm not addicted to my Smartphone, but many people really seem to have no idea how to have a good time without posting stuff.

 

 

Yes many times over.

[Pompom]

Wow that is so simple and so true. I am referring to those who have to post every waking moment of their day including what they are eating or what their alcoholic beverage of choice is.

 

The more that they share the less sex they are getting.

 

Yes but sex is harder to get than some likes or faves on online postings. Sex requires the courage to drop some inhibitions, face rejection, etc. and you may end up regretting it later. Facebook? Post kittens = instant happy fix.

Edited September 24, 2012 by Pompom

[Woggle]

If I had kids there would be a day when everybody had to turn off their handheld devices and the computer and actually do something together. It doesn't matter what it is but something where they actually talk and interact with each other. It's what my wife's friend does with her kids and I think it is great.

[irc333]

I think there was a time when it was considered romantic and the stuff movies were made of, to, for example, hang out at a place near or where your crush comes daily, and lovingly watching them from a distance. Doing no harm, just looking, smiling, dreaming, and hoping for a chance or the courage to approach them.

 

Agreed....it seems people, women obviously, are quick to refer to men as "stalkers" as a man who has just a mere crush on them.

 

Some women use the word "stalker" so frivoulsly as if it had no meaning and even say it in jest.

 

She'll say to her friend as she looks at her Facebook app that is programmed to see who has been "leering" at her profile from the other end. "Wow, seems Ted is a frequent visitor to my profile, he's such a stalker!!"

 

ANd she'll laugh with her friends.

 

Also, people OFFEND too much easily. I get a kick out of women who post half naked photos of themselves or cleavage shots at a club or wherever, and then guys make remarks of a sexual nature on her pic, and she gets ticked off about it. Such hypocracy.

 

With social media EVERYONE thinks they're a

 

1. Model

2. Celebrity

3. Look at me! Look at me!!

 

Then you look at them...and you're "creepy stalker guy!!"

 

Wow that is so simple and so true. I am referring to those who have to post every waking moment of their day including what they are eating or what their alcoholic beverage of choice is.

 

Or....taking a picture of the food that they'r eating at a restaurant. Who gives a crap!! Post something useful for once!

[oaks]

I think dating is becoming more retarded with the years.

 

The mass-market penetration of communications technology (phones and internet) has certainly been changing Dating over the last couple of decades (to pick just one example of why dating is changing), but to say that "dating is becoming more retarded" sounds like one of those frustrated whines that we get on here from time to time every day. There are many, many ways to meet potential dating partners!

[Titanwolf]

It is a sad state of affairs and though I'm a member of this generation, I have to agree. If I had children, they wouldn't have phones (they have legs), they wouldn't have laptops or kindles (they have libraries and books), they wouldn't have T.V and no they wouldn't "miss it" because how can you miss something you never had?. People today lack discipline. Instant gratification in every aspect of life has become common place (liposuction, microwave dinners, one night stands).

 

Daughter or son, I don't care. Martial arts on Monday, piano lessons on Tuesday, archery on Wednesday, relax on Thursday, relax on Friday, hiking on Saturday and cooking on Sunday. I know I must sound like a looney and those of you in social services, keep it zipped =_=. But that's how I was raised (lol true story) and it really helps to cultivate overall character. It translates to dating very well, I assure you. The least we can do as a generation, is raise our kids better to prevent them from making the same mistakes we have (as a generation) previously.

[wwwjd]

feel free to mock the source, but you can't deny the truths.... as already displayed in everyone's replies here:

 

http://cyber.eserver.org/unabom.txt

[CptObvious]

It is a sad state of affairs and though I'm a member of this generation, I have to agree. If I had children, they wouldn't have phones (they have legs), they wouldn't have laptops or kindles (they have libraries and books), they wouldn't have T.V and no they wouldn't "miss it" because how can you miss something you never had?. People today lack discipline. Instant gratification in every aspect of life has become common place (liposuction, microwave dinners, one night stands).

 

Daughter or son, I don't care. Martial arts on Monday, piano lessons on Tuesday, archery on Wednesday, relax on Thursday, relax on Friday, hiking on Saturday and cooking on Sunday. I know I must sound like a looney and those of you in social services, keep it zipped =_=. But that's how I was raised (lol true story) and it really helps to cultivate overall character. It translates to dating very well, I assure you. The least we can do as a generation, is raise our kids better to prevent them from making the same mistakes we have (as a generation) previously.

 

Boxing on monday, judo on tuesday, kickboxing on wednesday, grappling on thursday, strength and conditioning on friday and saturday, and then do archery, hiking, music, and cooking on sundays(aka relaxing/resting)

 

Raise a champion, not a sissy.

[truth_seeker]

 

Technology is a huge factor in terms of what is to blame. With texting, Facebook, and Twitter being huge and people using them more and more as their primary means of communication it makes people less use to communicating face to face or through a phone, thus making them less comfortable with communicating which we all know that bad communication is a disaster.

 

This is very accurate. There are women I've encountered who couldn't hold a conversation for the life of them, but could easily run off 3-5 texts, emails in a row filled with nonsense and "lol".

[Titanwolf]

Boxing on monday, judo on tuesday, kickboxing on wednesday, grappling on thursday, strength and conditioning on friday and saturday, and then do archery, hiking, music, and cooking on sundays(aka relaxing/resting)

 

Raise a champion, not a sissy.

 

Lol that's just abuse.