lily253 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 (edited) so my boyfriend and I were together for 6 months, after our 6th month anniversary he broke up with me asking for time, apparently he was scared because during the 6 months we had been too close and were almost living together...so it was fear of commitment....after the breakup we spent 2 really painful and crazy months, me asking for explanations and him asking for time, telling me he still loved me but was going through a life crisis and that he was confused...we never cut contact and saw each other at least once a week...me with drama asking him to explain and him trying to calm me down and asking for time, telling me didn't want to lose me and that he still felt something for me... he started dating another woman about 2 weeks after our breakup, he had just met her and they went out a couple of times for about 3 to 4 weeks...then it was over, he told me he was really confused and wanted time for himself to figure things out, again he asked me for time...about a week later we started seeing each other more often,almost everyday in fact...4 days ago we talked and got back together... even though our relationship didn't have problems, we never had a fight, we agreed to change a couple of things...the first one is that we won't spend so much time together, like we did before, we saw each other everyday and I used to stay at his apartment every night, this time it won't be everyday and we will try to have other activities with friends or by ourselves.... then he told me about how I always let him chose when it comes to some stuff, like...what we are having for dinner, the movie we are going to see or if we go out or stay home....I never really cared what we ate, or the movie we saw...those things are irrelevant for me...I like being with him and I don't have a problem with seeing, eating or doing the stuff he likes...honestly it's stuff I like too....but he told me that letting him chose all the time makes him think that I love him more than I love myself...that he got used to doing whatever he wanted because I always said yes...he thinks we need to break that habit and think he is right...I remembered that sometimes I told him I wanted to do this or that and we never did, sometimes he showed little interest in what I wanted to do and I think it's because of the same reason... how do I stop this habit...how can I make him more interested in fulfilling my wishes?? I do love myself, but how do I show him I do? Edited September 23, 2012 by lily253
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