Million.to.1 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 So, i haven't really gone on that many dates with men I have met from online dating. I met a guy yesterday morning and we had coffee, and a take-away bakery lunch at a park by the beach. It was nice and we spent 2 hours together. we hadn't messaged much online as he was more of a "let's just meet and see if we click" kinda guy, which was fine. He was flemish (from Belgium) but has lived here for 6 years. He was attractive and friendly and the conversation flowed, but sometimes he didn't get my humour which was the only small reservation i have with the meeting. Last time I went on a date with a guy from online, i thought it went well. He was touched my waist and did little things to show interest through-out the night. But after 5 days and not hearing anything, I txted him to ask if he wanted to go for another drink, which he declined saying that he has decided not to date at the moment. whatever, It's fine, but I feel like i just shouldn't have txt him and saved getting knocked back. So i have a another date this week with a different guy. I would like to go on a second date with the guy from yesterday, but he was really hard a gauge. Seemed a little more "serious" in personality than me so wouldn't be the type give much away anyway. So, what should I do? Wait for him to ask for a second date? What's the usual correct protocol? Should I txt something to show im interested without asking myself?
Jane2011 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 I always let the guy initiate everything at first. I just feel like...if he wants me, he needs to come after me. Every time I've been the initiator with a guy, he didn't like me that much. 1
thatone Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 the answer to the question you're tiptoeing around is "no, you cannot make him do anything while you show zero interest and have zero risk" 1
suladas Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 You could simply send him a text as simple as "had a great time, would like to do it again" or something. There is no reason to wait for him to contact you, if you want to go out again let him know.
oaks Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 So, what should I do? Wait for him to ask for a second date? What's the usual correct protocol? Should I txt something to show im interested without asking myself? There's no protocol, but if you enjoyed spending time with him you could thank him for making your morning enjoyable.
mysteryscape Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 They seem to have different mores over there -- date one at a time. The Belgian guy, especially if he's as "serious" as you say, might not be so eager if he knew you were seeing someone else the same week.
Titania22 Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I always let the guy initiate everything at first. I just feel like...if he wants me, he needs to come after me. Every time I've been the initiator with a guy, he didn't like me that much. This has been my experience with men in general.
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