How should I handle this situation - Work

[nycliving]

I've been working with this girl for 6 months, and she recently told me that she had a crush on me, but has also been dating 2 guys long distance. We've spent a considerable amount of time together talking and sharing a lot of personal information about ourselves and discussing things we'd do in the future (e.g. beliefs, where to live, introduction to family).

Then after a long night, I went in for a kiss and she rejected my approach. She said it wouldn't be fair to the other 2 guys shes dating and that our relationship wouldn't be honest as well. Also that she doesn't want things to be awkward at work if things didn't work out, but hinted about the future. What do you think I should do?

[phineas]

For starters?

 

Dating two men long distance? Would not touch her with your penis.

 

Secondly, I've rarely seen a woman think logically when it comes to dating co-workers they are totally into.

 

The only time i've heard the co-worker excuse was when they wern't that into me.

 

Trust me on this. When I was 50lbs + heavier I heard it from multiple woman that followed up the co-worker excuse with just wanting to hang out as friends.

 

I told them I had enough friends & a yr later when I got lean & buff that whole "not dating a co-worker" excuse all of sudden was forgotten because they were inviting me out all of a sudden out of the blue.

I of course told them I don't want to date a co-worker. LULZ.

 

Seriously, Think about it.

 

She says she has a crush on you but dating two men long distance.

 

YOU ARE RIGHT THERE.

 

I do not know many woman who wouldn't tell the other guys "see ya" so she could be with her crush.

 

You can do what you want, but if you stay on this current path you will end up her gay shopping buddy.

 

If it were me I would back off once her actions showed she wasn't interested in me romantically.

Find someone else & friendzone her.

Go out as "friends" and hit on other women in front of her.

 

If you don't have what it takes to actually go out & hit on other women then you've probably been friendzoned & will be joining her while she shops at victoria secrets for one of her long distance BF's.