Charlotted29 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Just to cut a long story short- -dated for 10 months 7 years ago (he broke up with me after his dad committed suicide) -became friends again a year later -2 years ago that friendship turned into a 'boyfriend/girlfriend' relationship, but without the official commitment from him. -7 months ago he started dating someone else Bear in mind this guy and his family were like my family and we had been through alot together. He has not attempted to contact me in 7 months since I said I couldn't do it anymore...his dishonesty about meeting someone new,and lack of respect for my feelings. Not to mention I can't be friends with someone who I am in love with who has found someone else. 7 months on, I feel like I have lost myself completely. I loved this guy truley, and trying to move on from this is just consuming my life. I feel like I can barely smile anymore, I am so sad... I don't get excited by anything, and it's like I have lost all desire. I feel empty now that this person who has been apart of my life for so long, has not only moved on with someone else and not in my life, but the fact that someone I trusted so dearly could not be honest with me. Sure I work and see friends to the best I can but im just existing, not living. Taking into account of our history and closeness, is this normal for me to feel this way still? and should it be expected to take this long, and longer to get over to get my life back?
stemac Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Charlotted29 You loved him its not going to go away anytime soon, I can understand you 100% its only been 6-7 weeks for me, I am not the same person anymore ive been destroyed just like you have, when you love someone and i loved my Ex, more then she will ever know, that true love may never go away for me and you, But you learn to put it away deep in your heart, and start to live with it, your in pain still because you really loved this person, maybe he couldn't see, The woods for the Trees,and that is his loss for not seeing true love, one-day you will find someone who will see the love you have to give, then when you open you heart again for someone true to you, and the love you have for this person now, will be set free, it takes time Charlotted29, don't rush it there's is not time limit on healing take one day at a time good luck :-)
Author Charlotted29 Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 Thanks Stemac, and i'm sorry to hear that you are going through something similar. I hope you can find comfort in the same words of advice you are giving me! I appreciate it takes time, I perhaps should try and be less hard on myself of the fact I should be over it by now. I did love strongly and it was sad that he couldn't open his heart to receive it, as I had so much to give. My closest friends and family think he will regret it one day, but I think by that time I will have moved on and it will be too late. You're right in saying that it deserves to be received by someone who can also give their heart to me, and mayb one day I might find that! The pain will subside in time i'm sure.
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