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Is she scared to commit or is it something else.


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Hi Everyone.

 

I hope you can help

 

I have been involved with a woman in some way or form for over 2 years. The fist time i dated her ( for about 8 months ) it ended as she told me she wants to get married and needed some commitment. At this point i didnt know if i was ready or even if she was the right girl.

 

Essentially that ended , we broke up and I didnt contact her . She did contact me 3 months later and we hooked up again , she asked again for a commitment, i ran away from it again . 3 months passed and she contacted me again , we hooked up and ever since its been this really wierd casual thing . Very emotionally and sexually involved.

 

She would come over , go to coffee , ice cream late at night , dinners movies etc. I really got to know her without the pressure. I really started to see myself with her long term. This has been going on for 6 months now. All this i dont initiate , she calls and texts, i dont initiate anything only if its calling or texting her back.

 

So i said to her the other day, wheres this all going ... were in our early and mid thirties and i felt its either we make a go of it or not . Wasting time on a casual relationship causes more issues than prevents.

 

She said that i tick all the boxes but cant let me into her heart. And that she doesnt think ill be happy with her. She cant explain it , but cant let me in. She feels we have a connection and cant think of life without me.

 

She also cant explain what it is that preventing her from moving forward with me...

 

I explained to her that ill do everything in my power to make it work and make her feel confortable. This did not help. SHe is one of those arty/hippy chicks that needs to feel stuff lol.

 

I feel shes scared of it not working out ( dont blame her )....

 

At this point i really had the ****s, and i said well thats that, its over , dont contact me again. We need to find people that do it for us.

 

Ive left it at that with her .... what do you think . I feel like ive dont the righ thing.

 

Let me know

 

S

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