Mcnulty Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 So, I'm still trying to heal, 11 months on and NC. Got an email yesterday from my ex friend who betrayed me...her BF. She has had a major op, had the same op when I was with her and it was tough for her. He says he understands if I tell him to F-ck off, but he's asking if she displayed the same aggression and pushing people away after her op first time!! WTF!!!! The guy has some nerve and i'm angry. I'm trying to heal and this **** sends me a request for help!!! Again...WTF??? I'm angry, so i left her a message on her home phone, calmly saying please ask your bf not to send me any more messages as it's none of my business. I'm pissed and upset...sad that she is poorly mentally as well as physically, but why ask me such nonsense?? Then...today the phone rings, i don't make it to the phone...it's her number. They're haunting and hurting me...I cant take much more of this...so much for getting on with my life.
Author Mcnulty Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 She's rang again and left a message asking me to ring her. What do i do? Please help.
Calico Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 She left you for another man. It is his responsibility to be there for her, not yours. It was a choice she made, one that he supported by betraying you, so it's his job to fill the space left by you. I'd not call back. 2
xpaperxcutx Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Why haven't u changed yor number yet? The only way to cut anybody out of your life is to ensure they never have a way of finding or reaching you.
fallenheart Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Do NOT call her back. Take solace in the fact that neither one of them are truly "happy" and just leave it at that. You won!
MonsterMash Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Am I the only one who likes the "Sure I'll help. Lets get together at X place and I'll tell you what I did" response.....then curb stomp him when he gets there option? A woman cheating/leaving for or with someone I don't know is one thing. But for it to be a so called friend is a completely different level, and something he should answer for IMO. I believe "friends" like that have their own unique level of hell. Whatever happened to bros before hoes?
Author Mcnulty Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 Monster, love your post! I have thought about that, I have lots of **** on him if I want to use it. Can't hit him though I'd lose my job unfortunately. Bros before hoes, I like that! 1
geegirl Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 I'm sorry but the only one allowing them to haunt you is you. 1) When you received his email, you could have deleted and blocked his email. 2) If you had to reply, you could have sent him an email to never contact you but you chose to send it to her. I have a feeling you were doing that to get a reaction. She left you for your best friend. And it was done in a cruel way. Go back and read your posts and refresh your memory again as to why she is bad for you and why this would never work. She's calling you because you opened that door. Your responsibility to close it. Ignore. You called to get your point across, you did and that should be enough. If you call, you certainly validate that you wanted more than just to leave a message. If there's anyone that is setting you back, it is you.
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