veronica12345 Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 My boyfriend and i have been having sex for over a year now and i have never had an orgasm. He has no problem having one though!!! Is there something wrong with me!!
soapoperahaven Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 there is pry nothing wrong actually there a not of women who do not ever have an orgasm some even have them only when they masterbate and not during actual sex just try new things and hopefully you can have one one day
Tech76 Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 I once dated a lady in her 40's. She was quite surprised when she had one. It is not you.
Kat Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Have you tried lying on your stomach and just moving about? Most women can't cum during intercourse, some can only cum during masturbation, and the rest can't come AT ALL. This is normal
sami Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 There are many complicated factors involved . While some of them are psychological ( yourself) a few others are sociological ( family,school,church, media,friends and partners). It depends on the way you had been brought up and taught about sex. Your partner may also play a role. You may be one of those "old copy machines" type who need time and some work to warm up. Talking to your guy to slow down and do extra work may help in addition to your own efforts on your whole system.
moimeme Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 First of all, it is you. Secondly, 'old copy machines'??? 1. Can you have orgasms when you mastUrbate? If not, then read up on masturbating and learn to have one. Until you know how they come about, you can't figure out what to tell a partner. 2. Once you know what sorts of stimulation work for you, show your partner. It is true that a lot of women can't have orgasms during missionary position and some not even during penetrative sex. Fact is, that the bits that create your orgasm may not be receiving enough, or the right kind, of stimulation. You may have to get your orgasm through oral sex or through being manually stimulated.
Pained Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 I can have orgasms NO PROBLEM through masturbation, but never through sex, although it still feels good. My only problem is that it's hard for another man to manually stimulate me long enough and/or fast enough, even when I show him, so I'm afraid to ask my current boyfriend (whom I just started getting sexual with, but no sex yet) to try and put up with it. Masturbation is just easier for me, and as long as we're having fun, I can do without it.
mronederful Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 if you let your boyfriend watch you do it a few times, and he can't catch on, i guess just keep showing him sooner or later he'll do it right, actually, it may be more that you just aren't relaxed enough
Author veronica12345 Posted July 25, 2004 Author Posted July 25, 2004 i still havent been able to have an orgasm by masterbating so ill take your advice and look up some info on masterbating. Maybe i just dont know what im doing...who knows!
Butterfly_Queen Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Possibly could be a psychcological thing. Just try to relax and see what happens.
avsguy01 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Have your man give you oral, im sure he can get you off that way.
She's Come Undone Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 You women who "can't" have an orgasm during sex are crazy as s***!! LOL Put your damn hand down there while it's "going on" and masterbate. Trust me, the guy WON'T mind!!! There is nothing like the feeling of cumming together. I mean, the Beatles sang about it..."come together, right now.." LMAO Hands, ladies, hands!!!
alicia24 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 First of all don't concentrate so hard on having an orgasm./ That in itself can hinder the process./ Second of all get on top. put him deep inside you and just rotate your hips. He'll hit the spot My honey can make me go three or four times this way
Craig Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 What works for one woman doesn't seem to work as well for another. Take it slow, be kind to yourself and be in a relaxed mood. Try experimenting with different speeds, pressures, patterns and places on and around your clit. As you approach orgasm you may find that you need to change your technique. Go with what your body is telling you as you are experimenting, relax, enjoy. Take your time you might need more time than you think you do the first times you orgasm. If you still think you can't orgasm clitorally you might want to read up on vaginal orgasms. If you focus some attention on your "G" or "H" spot while taking care of your clit you might (but not necessarily) get a better result also. If you don't orgasm right away don't worry about it just take a break and try later on.
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