paperboy48 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 The guy my ex wife (seperated 9 months) has been seeing took my son fishing yesterday. He has only met my kids (8 yrs old) 3 or 4 times and they are already having one-on-one bonding time.
todreaminblue Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 The guy my ex wife (seperated 9 months) has been seeing took my son fishing yesterday. He has only met my kids (8 yrs old) 3 or 4 times and they are already having one-on-one bonding time. How long have you been separated for? You seem upset with this fact do you know the guy? are you in a relationship with someone else? do you plan on being in a realtionship with soemone else? If you can answer my questions i might be able to offer some advice.If you would like some.
soccerrprp Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Yikes, harsh on your wife's part. Only separated and not divorced...she's being rather irresponsible, I think.
Author paperboy48 Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 How long have you been separated for? You seem upset with this fact do you know the guy? are you in a relationship with someone else? do you plan on being in a realtionship with soemone else? If you can answer my questions i might be able to offer some advice.If you would like some. We have been separated for 9 months...will be divorced in a month or so. I do not know this guy. I am not in a relationship, I have not felt ready yet. I would like to be in a relationship with someone, I am almost ready for that step. I am just worried because I am still in love with my wife but, I don't know if I will ever not be in love with her.
todreaminblue Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 (edited) We have been separated for 9 months...will be divorced in a month or so. I do not know this guy. I am not in a relationship, I have not felt ready yet. I would like to be in a relationship with someone, I am almost ready for that step. I am just worried because I am still in love with my wife but, I don't know if I will ever not be in love with her. I think nine months is too soon my kids were nowhere near ready for me to introduce anyone in the first year or the second i was nowhere near ready either.i was never married so i could have dated in the first year and i did abotu six months after i think.....wasnt ready.....felt sick organizing dates.....heart sick.... i do think it is too soon for your wife, she is still your wife to be introducing another man to your children.I made a promise to myself on this part.....wont happen unless i am sure i could trust that person adn know their character and personality.I hav etold my ex about a person that i am interested in.he is happy for me ....i hope...i have told my kids and my family my friends....now all i have to do is tell him....how is that for backwards.....snail pace too......but anyway....talk to your kids find out how they feel are they being forced .....i am sorry i feel for you the only positive thing is i can say....is i told my girls to show respect to the other woman......that no matter what they feel they have to respect her because she is with their father......you may have to do the same thing......and when you have a relationship they will respect who you are with as you have taught them to show respect and shown a much higher level of understanding they will respect you so much more....its hard but life throws lemons at you all the time......and it stings when they hit......but you will always be your sons father spend time with him too.....have fun and appreciate what a gift you bought into the world....and hope this new guy treats him with compassion and understanding........that would be a positive scenario if the guy doesnt show understanding and compassion kick his butt for me....im kidding....maybe not.......;0)..if he treats him badly even once and your son tells you....deal with it, nip that once in the bud and quickly....make it perfectly undeniably clear you wont put up with it....best wishes to you and a brighter tomorrow....deb Edited September 23, 2012 by todreaminblue
darkmoon Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 OP why don't you go for custody of your son?
weallfalldown Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 it's not easy to take, and unfortunatly a lot of women do this......5 mins later your kids are around another bloke. luckily i have full custody of my daughter, and she lives with me........I would ask to meet this guy, and suss him out a bit, you have every right to.
BewitchedandBothered Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 The guy my ex wife (seperated 9 months) has been seeing took my son fishing yesterday. He has only met my kids (8 yrs old) 3 or 4 times and they are already having one-on-one bonding time. Yikes:( Sending Cyber hugs and hope your way. Personally, she is going about this too soon. Is she looking for someone to be their stepfather? She should have waited until divorce was final before doing this. And how are the kids taking it? You should be able to meet the person your children are spending one on one time with.
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