pao000 Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 This is my desperate attempt at getting somelse opinion on my relationship. I've been with my b/f for 2 years (we used to be together before that ,another 3 years) and he had said years ago that he didn't want me to die my hair, so I said ok... last month I mentioned that I wanted him to streak my hair and he said "It's your hair do what ever you want! Don't expect me to say I like it if I don't" I said ok... yesterday I did it I got highlights... they look great on me, nothing but complements from everyone! As soon as he saw me he stopped talking to me. Not only that but we had plans to go out tonight and he said he wanted to go alone because he doesn't want to have to see my hair. That hurt... a lot. My b/f doesnt want to look at me or be seen with me! But anyway then he said he was going by himself thats when I asked him not to got, he didn't go but he refuses to look at me it makes me feel like crap. He is treating me like I killed someone!!!! What do I do? I am afraid he's going to get worst with him possesiveness... and I don't know how to handle that. He also has things he doesn't want me to wear... but he doesn't wear what I don't like so thats not that bad. HELP... even comments!
soapoperahaven Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 that is just stupid and to me i would think it has more to do with something else and not the hair and he is just making that the reason maybe deep down it is something else and if it is only the hair then he needs to be gone that is ridiculous
doppelganger Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 Some questions... You say you were together for 2 years and another 3 before that. Why did you and your bf break up 2 years ago? I agree with soapoperaheaven that there's got to be something else to the hair thing. Can you explain what your relationship with this guy is like so we can maybe get a better picture of whats going on? You call him possessive, but there's not much to the post that says he's possessive except maybe the clothes issue. As far as the hair thing goes, it sounds more stupid and immature than possessive. I mean, it sounds as if he's not just mad at you as a 'possessive guy' might be when you go against his wishes, but it actually sounds like he's repulsed or appalled by you for being like this. btw, how old are you two? ------
Love2BLoved Posted July 25, 2004 Posted July 25, 2004 I honestly think that what he feels for you is not love. When you love someone you do not treat them like that!!! If he does not like the way your hair looks he could easily tell you that he does not like it but he does not have to put all those EXTRAS into it!!!!!!!!! I am a natural brunette, but one time I decided to die my hair blonde.....BIG CHANGE!!!!!!! My husband disliked it sooooooooooooooo much!!! He asked me to please go back to my natural color, which I did because I did actually feel weird and not like myself; plus, he is my husband and I like to look good for him, but not once did he tell me "oh no I cannot be seen with you!" or anything of that sort!!!! He gave me a suggestion but did not criticize me or put me down. I really feel that you should tell him what you feel when he does or says those things. See the way he reacts and you can come to a conclusion on whether HE is worth being seen with!!!!!!!!
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