Samh1988 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 So, My ex and i were together for 8 years, We were planning our weding and we were 8 weeks out and she up and left, I asked her and eventually got an answer (7 Weeks later) that she had cheated on me while she was out wit friends, I am of coarse very hurt by this, However she is blaming me. We were un able to have sex beacuse it was extreemly painfull for myself as i had developed phimosis, Which i had tried to bring up in conversation with er but she kept telling me that she would prefer if i didnt ge a circmucision, She has said she has no regrets nor does she feel guilty about it, I love her immensly but im not sure if its going to work out, She has moved away to live with her friends so i dont see her often which is making me feel less about her, Her parents want answers do i tell them the truth??
superman2be Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 well it looks like its over , and cheating is a very serious action. I would not tell her family, and just say it didnt work out and try to move on. Ive been in your shoes , it hurts when they cheat, but it causes allot of relationship issues long term if you stay together. I dont know if the pain long term staying together is worth the pain your feeling now. Its hard to move on , but i think it needs to happen. Some things just happen and are part of gods plan . GO to the gym , work out , go out get back on track , every day one step at a time. S
CC12 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Her parents want answers do i tell them the truth?? The only answer they need to know is "It just didn't work out" or something equally vague. I'm surprised that they care to know the truth. That's very nosy of them. Why don't you tell them to ask their daughter, since she's the one who decided to leave? Doesn't really make sense that they're asking you about this. I think the only reason you want to tell them is to punish your ex. That would be vindictive and petty of you. Airing dirty laundry makes everyone involved look bad. 1
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 So, My ex and i were together for 8 years, We were planning our weding and we were 8 weeks out and she up and left, I asked her and eventually got an answer (7 Weeks later) that she had cheated on me while she was out wit friends, I am of coarse very hurt by this, However she is blaming me. We were un able to have sex beacuse it was extreemly painfull for myself as i had developed phimosis, Which i had tried to bring up in conversation with er but she kept telling me that she would prefer if i didnt ge a circmucision, She has said she has no regrets nor does she feel guilty about it, I love her immensly but im not sure if its going to work out, She has moved away to live with her friends so i dont see her often which is making me feel less about her, Her parents want answers do i tell them the truth?? Yes, tell them the truth. That you still love her and was hoping to get married, but she cheated on you, ruining it all. Let them know you were willing to give her a chance, but she didn't show any remorse or guilt for what she did so you had no choice but to end it. Her cheating is HER fault, not yours! Health issues or not.
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