naomii Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Ive been seeing a guy for 2 years. The first year nothing serious happened between us. Then he said he wanted to see where things could go with us in january this year. The past 7 months we became really close but told me he "wasnt ready for a relationship" and i was. Id get mad if he had girl friends, even though they were just friends and we werent seeing anyone else (i know this for a fact because we spent most of our time together). Well, i decided to go out to a bar with one of my guy friends a few months before him and i started getting closer (back in march). He found out about it the other day and says that im a hypocrite because id get mad if he were to go to a bar with another girl, which i would (even though i last went out months ago!) He doesnt go out with other girls and i dont go out my guy friends anymore. He told me to "have fun with him, have fun messing with other guys". I tried to explain that i havent seen anyone but him in the past 7 months. He even told me to date other guys since hes not ready for a relationship and he wouldnt hold it against me (he said that a few months before all this happened). Whats his problem? Does he have more feelings for me than he wants to admit?*
Author naomii Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 Why would he be jealous when hes the one that doesnt want a relationship? Lol men are so confusing sometimes.
CaptJay Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Why would he be jealous when hes the one that doesnt want a relationship? Lol men are so confusing sometimes. Exactly. I don't know why guys do that, so if anybody would like to explain please post.
TripLine Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 He sees that he has you in the bag so he has no need to jump in the bag as well. But since he sees that someone can possibly take you, he is jealous, because the situation changed. You are doing to him what he wanted to do to you.
bob the brave Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 if feel bad for you. You have dedicated yourself as much as he is willing but you need more. Basically, the other posters are right. He's just jealous. He doesn't seem to be concerned for your welfare at all, only his. My advice would be to move on. There are more fish in the sea.
CptSaveAho Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 "Im not ready for a relationship" "have fun with him, have fun with other guys" means move on... not jealousy... hes encouraging you to leave him alone I do not understand how this is interpreted for anything different
Author naomii Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 I see it as jealousy because why else would he even say anything about it? If he didnt care why didnt he just brush it off? I actually ended it with him prior to him accusing me of seeing someone else (my guy friend). As soon as i ended it, he blew my phone up saying i want someone else. I tried to tell him its not because ofthat, its because i was hurting and felt like i should just move on. I think he just wanted to make himself feel better as if he was ending it with me.
Author naomii Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 I also told him this wasnt easy for me and that i wouldnt be able to date anyone else for a long time, that its him that i want. He kept sayin "sure, just admit it you want to mess around with other guys".
Author naomii Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 Also i asked if we could talk in person if he cared that much about me, but all he said was "after i go to the club" and "i need to find a girl to go to the bar with"
CptSaveAho Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Are you listening or reading what you're typing From a mans perspective, he doesnt want to be in a relationship and he doesnt want a relationship with you. He's encouraging you to do your own thing. Stop projecting jealousy and your own emotions on to what you think he wants and desires
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