samslick Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Met a great girl online (she's 28, I'm 29). Gone on 2 wonderful dates, great conversation, no awkwardness at all, she's very pretty, great personality, etc. We share many of the same interests, tastes in food, movies, tv also. We have been texting pretty much daily for the last 2 weeks or so, and things seem to be going great. She seems a bit shy and nervous occasionally, especially when I compliment her on her looks, or something she just accomplished and she doesn't really reciprocate with many compliments back to me. No big deal, I'm just having trouble gauging if she likes me and is attracted to me. The texting is mainly initiated by me, but she always perpetuates the conversation, i'd say it's me starting it 70% of the time, her 30%. I really like her so far and don't want to screw this up, so I'm not acting desperate or weird to mess it up. We haven't talked about our ex's or anything yet in detail either. I'm divorced (for a year now), have no kids, no contact with my ex or her friends/family. I'm quite nervous myself about telling her this as I'm afraid she won't want to continue dating me. I'm very successful professionally and I'm a well rounded person and I have a lot to offer. It's just tough for me as I only recently starting dating again in the last 3 months after not dating for 8 years (was married for 2 years). So far now, I'm just taking it slow, not trying to pressure her or anything like that. I wanted to kiss her good night last night after we went out to dinner, but she didn't seem ready for that, so we just hugged.
Jane2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 It sounds to me like she likes you if she's keeping the text conversations going. It's not that big of a deal that you're initiating most of the texts. I've been dating someone for almost two months (we've already slept together several times, we're pretty cozy in general), and he still initiates most of the texts. Like 90% of them. Just keep asking her out. If she says yes to the outings, she probably likes you.
surlyboy Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I go through this a lot and I'm learning to just be confident and go with the flow. All you can do is be yourself and give it your best shot. You can never make someone like you, all you can do is hope you attract them to you. I meet so many women online and out of them all, once every 2-4 months, one will come along that I am excited about. I'm still single, so it did not work out with any of them and I have to be okay with that. It sucks, but your doing everything right, at this point its just a matter if she decides your the one or not.
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