Shaun-Dro Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 That's right, so what? If you don't know the parties involved then it's none of any one's business, right? A coworker and I are messing with a pair of cute young girls (or women) we met at the mall recently. They approached us so what fool in their right mind would turn that down because it takes balls for a woman to do that, regardless if they're teen girls. And yes, they're legal. But since then, everyone is so concerned about what we're doing and always staring at us. People can date whoever they damn well please but here we're probably getting more looks than homosexual couples and that's a shame!
CaptJay Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 That's right, so what? If you don't know the parties involved then it's none of any one's business, right? A coworker and I are messing with a pair of cute young girls (or women) we met at the mall recently. They approached us so what fool in their right mind would turn that down because it takes balls for a woman to do that, regardless if they're teen girls. And yes, they're legal. What's the age difference were talking about here? cj
Pyro Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 People are probably concerned that you and your friend are holding those girls against their will. 1
rana-rana Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 That's right, so what? If you don't know the parties involved then it's none of any one's business, right? A coworker and I are messing with a pair of cute young girls (or women) we met at the mall recently. They approached us so what fool in their right mind would turn that down because it takes balls for a woman to do that, regardless if they're teen girls. And yes, they're legal. But since then, everyone is so concerned about what we're doing and always staring at us. People can date whoever they damn well please but here we're probably getting more looks than homosexual couples and that's a shame! lol yea its ****ed up how ppl cant mind their businesses right? when i was w/ a older guy everyone was all in my biz like wtf why do u care u dont even know me?!
ThaWholigan Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I don't really care, I know of a few girls who have flings with older guys because they are more independent and have their own houses. It's never been my concern. I do laugh at guys who are in their 30s and older who troll for young girls though . Guys like that get their asses handed to them by dudes I know in my area. 2
mesmerized Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 What's the age difference were talking about here? cj He's around 33, 5'6" and obsessed with teen girls. His issue is he cant keep them, usually due to how creepy he comes off (or truly is).
Woggle Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 AS long as everybody is consenting adults everybody should mind their business. 1
MrCastle Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 AS long as everybody is consenting adults everybody should mind their business. Eh, I disagree. If you have a 40 year old man and an 18 year old girl; by law she is an "adult", but is she an adult really? I'd definitely have my own personal opinions and reservations about a man that old looking for women that young. Not that I would try to interfere and break them up, but I would be pretty grossed out and wouldn't be able to respect the man. 3
Woggle Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 If somebody is old enough to vote and join the military they are old enough to decide who they want to date. I would not be interested in an 18 year old but that is between them. 2
oaks Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 But since then, everyone is so concerned about what we're doing and always staring at us. Maybe they are jealous? 1
Pyro Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 AS long as everybody is consenting adults everybody should mind their business. what if you had an 18 year old daughter dating someone your age? 1
Woggle Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 what if you had an 18 year old daughter dating someone your age? I probably wouldn't be crazy about it but at the end of the day adults can make their own choices. I wouldn't want a child of mine to do drugs but I don't there should be any laws against it.
ThaWholigan Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Maybe they are jealous? Sometimes they are - sometimes it's guys my age who feel put-out by it. I always advise them not to care, because those girls will always fall for older dudes.
Author Shaun-Dro Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 What's the age difference were talking about here? cj Why does it matter what the age difference is? We're all happy and having a good time when out and about. People should be more open-minded and go find someone they can connect with, regardless of age or race. This is one of the reasons why so many can't find happiness: they're too overly concerned about what others think. Ain't this one of the motivating factors to why gays fought so hard for their rights in the first place?
CaptJay Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Why does it matter what the age difference is? We're all happy and having a good time when out and about. People should be more open-minded and go find someone they can connect with, regardless of age or race. This is one of the reasons why so many can't find happiness: they're too overly concerned about what others think. Ain't this one of the motivating factors to why gays fought so hard for their rights in the first place? 'Cus I'm jealous too!
xpaperxcutx Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 My boyfriend has a good 10 years on me but the difference is he's dating me because he likes me not because he's looking for an ass to tap. The fact you're resorting to girls barely past jail bait age is obviously because you have ulterior motives. Kudos to you for asking for openmindedness, but still kind of sad you can't find a girl who's more maturely grown. I just feel sad for these girls who have no one to tell them before hand about all the wolves out there.
january2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) I've seen a lot of people make concessions when it comes to flings, ONS and other short-term relationships. I suppose age difference is one concession. But for an LTR, I'd wonder if there's much compatabilty when there's at least a decade's difference. I think that there are some rare couples where the younger partner is very mature and the older partner has a very youthful outlook on life. However, in general, I'm not a believer that it "works" for everyone. Having said that, I have no investment in other people's dating decisions outside of those of my immediate family and close friends. In answer to the OP directly, I suspect that people care in a general "good citizen" kind of way because they think it's creepy what you're doing and they are concerned for the wellbeing of the girls. Particularly as it comes across as though you and your co-worker are tag-teaming the girls in a predatory way - "messing with" are the keywords here, I think. Edited September 22, 2012 by january2011
Author Shaun-Dro Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 I've seen a lot of people make concessions when it comes to flings, ONS and other short-term relationships. I suppose age difference is one concession. But for an LTR, I'd wonder if there's much compatabilty when there's at least a decade's difference. I think that there are some rare couples where the younger partner is very mature and the older partner has a very youthful outlook on life. However, in general, I'm not a believer that it "works." Having said that, I have no investment in other people's dating decisions outside of those of my immediate family and close friends. In answer to the OP directly, I suspect that people care in a general "good citizen" kind of way because they think it's creepy what you're doing and they are concerned for the wellbeing of the girls. Particularly as it comes across as though you and your co-worker are tag-teaming the girls in a predatory way - "messing with" are the keywords here, I think. We can't be tag-teaming anyone when these girls approached us first last week. They thought we were brothers. That was their opening in trying to connect with us. If older women had the balls to give this a shot we'd be just as pleased, but they want to be approached first 100% of the time, and without giving off any signals. I'm not going to put that kind of work in when there are younger dames who don't require it. 1
Pompom Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Eh, I disagree. If you have a 40 year old man and an 18 year old girl; by law she is an "adult", but is she an adult really? I'd definitely have my own personal opinions and reservations about a man that old looking for women that young. Not that I would try to interfere and break them up, but I would be pretty grossed out and wouldn't be able to respect the man. By that logic, someone becomes younger or "de-adults" when the other one is much older. 18 is 18, it doesn't matter how old his or her partner is. The 18-year-old is not suddenly 12. Also, not everyone who ends up with a person way outside their own age group, has been looking for that deliberately. Sometimes people just happen to fall in love with someone who happens to be much younger. I've been 27 with a crush on a 19-year-old and I've been 25 with a crush on my 36-year-old teacher. If somebody is old enough to vote and join the military they are old enough to decide who they want to date. I would not be interested in an 18 year old but that is between them. Amen! If you can handle shooting people, you can handle sex. I mean, in America they can drunk-drive people to death and get away on bail at age 16. So please, don't give me "but they be children"... The fact you're resorting to girls barely past jail bait age is obviously because you have ulterior motives. Kudos to you for asking for openmindedness, but still kind of sad you can't find a girl who's more maturely grown. As if having mindless sex is an age thing. Also, if those girls approached them at the mall and are since having this little kind of dating club going on between them, that doesn't sound like they approached the men with the intention of anything serious. You don't take your girlfriends to the mall and say "Hey, let's seduce those older men over there, maybe we'll find love, marriage and happiness!". Unless you're a total twitwit. And do we care about the interest of twitwits, no we don't I just feel sad for these girls who have no one to tell them before hand about all the wolves out there. Oh please, they approached those "wolves". Personally, "extreme" couples of all sort do sometimes gross me out: huge age gaps, any midget involvement, cripples, deformities, yeah, I don't like the sight, but I don't speak up because past those unsightly appearances I appreciate their love and happiness and actually feel happy for them. A weird relationship that makes the couple - or even trio - happy, is better than being single and sad, I think. So whatever I think inwardly about that 60-year-old and that 19-year-old, I keep it to myself and do not begrudge. It's none of my business. 1
NYC-BigKat Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 That's right, so what? If you don't know the parties involved then it's none of any one's business, right? A coworker and I are messing with a pair of cute young girls (or women) we met at the mall recently. They approached us so what fool in their right mind would turn that down because it takes balls for a woman to do that, regardless if they're teen girls. And yes, they're legal. But since then, everyone is so concerned about what we're doing and always staring at us. People can date whoever they damn well please but here we're probably getting more looks than homosexual couples and that's a shame! I kinda care 'cause I cant get any girl of any age & I know a gay couple in my bldg that everyone talks about & this guy over 40 that always goes to flirt with really young girls & people are looking but not saying nothing about it so lots of stuff going on right?
january2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 We can't be tag-teaming anyone when these girls approached us first last week. They thought we were brothers. That was their opening in trying to connect with us. If older women had the balls to give this a shot we'd be just as pleased, but they want to be approached first 100% of the time, and without giving off any signals. I'm not going to put that kind of work in when there are younger dames who don't require it. If I were single and in a drought where no guys around my age or older approached me, I still wouldn't consider an approach by a young boy in his teens a valid jumping off point for dating him. I'd be a little flattered but he'd still be a baby in my eyes and the thought of getting hot and bothered with him would make me feel ill. I just couldn't take him seriously. Having said that, if you are happy with what you are doing, why does it bother you that other people are bothered by what you are doing? It's not important that you have other people support your behaviour, right?
Author Shaun-Dro Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 If I were single and in a drought where no guys around my age or older approached me, I still wouldn't consider an approach by a young boy in his teens a valid jumping off point for dating him. I'd be a little flattered but he'd still be a baby in my eyes and the thought of getting hot and bothered with him would make me feel ill. I just couldn't take him seriously. Having said that, if you are happy with what you are doing, why does it bother you that other people are bothered by what you are doing? It's not important that you have other people support your behaviour, right? I don't need the support, per se, but the constant negativity can become so tiresome after a while, especially from older dames, no surprise there. And some of the rude behavior we're getting at times is unnecessary. But that's to be expected, I suppose. The thing is, we're not hurting anyone by having fun. People are jealous I think because they probably hate that it was so easy for us.
january2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I don't need the support, per se, but the constant negativity can become so tiresome after a while, especially from older dames, no surprise there. And some of the rude behavior we're getting at times is unnecessary. But that's to be expected, I suppose. The thing is, we're not hurting anyone by having fun. People are jealous I think because they probably hate that it was so easy for us. If it helps you to move on, then perhaps it's worth thinking that. However, I think you're probably overestimating if you think that people are highly invested in your life choices beyond passing concern for the well being of the young girls that you target. Some may express strong misgivings, but unless they are beating down your door with the police in tow, I guess you can continue living your life. And anyone you don't like to hear from on here, you can put them on ignore. And vice versa.
NYC-BigKat Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 If it helps you to move on, then perhaps it's worth thinking that. However, I think you're probably overestimating if you think that people are highly invested in your life choices beyond passing concern for the well being of the young girls that you target. Some may express strong misgivings, but unless they are beating down your door with the police in tow, I guess you can continue living your life. And anyone you don't like to hear from on here, you can put them on ignore. And vice versa. Um...I thought the op said the girls targeted him? He & and his friend is so lucky to get girls to approach even if they'r young young. I feel jealous .
yongyong Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Because they are older woman, simple as that. Now date a older woman and go out with your female friends who are younger than her. Watch how she will act obnoxious LOL
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