bobsmith76 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 When it comes to dating I have an advantage over other men in that I'm interested in marriage and I have never cheated and I have no interest in cheating. I am very good at mastering temptation. However, this advantage hasn't helped me improve on my pathetic scorecard of 5 dates a year, in spite of an enormous amount of time looking for a date and not being able to get to the 3rd date with any of the 5. I'm wondering about how many marriage proposals a standard American woman will get before she gets married. I'm guessing she will have 3 relationships longer than 6 months and one of those 3 will propose marriage.
KathyM Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I don't know what the standard is, but I guess I would fit into that category. I starting dating at 14 years old, but had a total of three long-term boyfriends, the third ending in marriage at 19 years old. I think most women nowdays wait longer before getting married. I think the average age for women to marry is now 25 or 26, so they probably have a higher number of long term boyfriends than I did. I would suggest you ask friends or relatives or a dating coach as to what you might improve upon with your approach with these women. Your looks are fine, so there must be something there in your approach that is working against you. Maybe you come on too strong or too serious too early on and that is scaring these women off. Maybe you aren't approaching enough women. Maybe you should get involved in more activities where you could meet women, or try online dating. Work on it from many different angles. If you are only getting five dates a year, you must not be putting yourself out there enough. 1
darkmoon Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) "it is all about them. They will tell you things like to quit being dramatic but they themselves are overly dramatic. Much more than any man can be. Don't ever give a woman a lot attention just enough to pull their strings" whoever wrote this does not like women; not one redeeming womens' feature is ackowledged Edited September 22, 2012 by darkmoon 1
Author bobsmith76 Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 You look like you are....dorky in bed. You look like come to conclusions based on very little information. I do not have enough information to conclude that you're mean and insensitive, however you seem to be that way judging from your post.
january2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 whoever wrote this does not like women anyone Corrected it for you. In response to the OP: I'm not American. I was in an LTR of 10+ years, which meant I was out of the scene for most of my 20s and 30s. He proposed, twice towards the end of our relationship. I said, no. He missed his timeslot. If my current SO (an LDR of about a year and a half) proposes, I would like to think that I'd say, "yes." However, I don't know if that's a 100% certainty. I'd agree with KathyM about looking at your approach again. It also sounds like you're not meeting marriage-minded women.
Matlock Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I must disagree about you having an advantage. The idea that most men only want sex and only a few want a relationship is not factual. There are plenty of men looking for a marriage relationship. They're not at all rare. A woman can find a relationship-minded man almost as easily as she can find a sex-only man.
veggirl Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I have never known of anyone who has been proposed to multiple times (I am 29) other than crazy girls who attract crazy men and they are engaged and moving in (but never make it to planning a wedding) after a couple months. I have never been proposed to, but my first Long term boyfriend told my friends he was going to (we were 20/21 and had been together like 8 mos) and they told me and i told them to tell him to get a grip and not do it! My most recent bf.......wish he'd proposed :(
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