tecra Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) I am 49 and been married for 25 years, have 2 grown children that are very close to myself and my wife. My marriage has always been just OK and to be honest if my wife hadnt got pregnant I dought we would have got married. After 25 years though my wife has become my life and I cant imagine her not being there, that being said, I do fall into the category of emotional abuse from her. She is always right and I am always wrong unless I have proof I was right. She tells me how useless I am and if something goes wrong its my fault. If my son does something wrong she turns it around that its my fault. I have no money as she never wanted me to work so that she could keep me home and have since had a heart attack and cant work. I have had to go bankrupt since heart attack so I dont have much to offer anyone else if we did split. we dont sleep together but we do almost everything together during the day. I still love her but feel I am not getting treated the way I deserve. I have never cheated and neither has she but I have eyed off many other women. I am afraid if I leave I will lose 25 years of possessions, the stability of knowing what tomorrow brings, family get togethers with my kids etc. I have no money, we only rent a house, only have one car, I have no friends, my mum has Alzheimers My kids will side with their mum. I am bankrupt ill bald fat not much to offer where will I end up. Please help Edited September 22, 2012 by tecra
Gunny376 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Th first thing I would do is get off my dead azz and quit feeling sorry for myself. I know that sounds harsh ~ but I can say that because I've been there. This is what I did. I got in my car ~ I didn't have a job at the time ~ and I drove around town any and everywhere I could and I volunteers to help for free ~ (Just to get out of the house. ACTION precedes emotion ~ you've got to get up and get to moving before your feel like doing it) I actually got turned down a lot of places ~ you would be surprised? I volunterd at the here there and everywhere. I finally got a volunter job at a local food bank for two hours a week. Then I got a "jig" at a soup kitchen. This is what I learned! There are always going to be those that are in better health, wealther, better looking, more blessed than I. But, there are many more worse off than I. Me? I'm better off (I really am!) than a lot of people! I'v got SO much to be thankful for! I have been truly blessed! Count your blessing ~ not your troubles! "But by the grace of almighty God? There go I!" I got so wrapped in my sorrows of my life that I couldn't see the "pearls" and gold that God had planted before my very feet. I've got a good hefty doze of "Survivor's Guilt" and PTSD, but when I started helping Vets coming back from Iraq and Afganstain? It helped me a hunderd fold. I literally got back ten fold what I put in! If you've got your health (that means your stil alive and kicking) your strength (defined individualy on an individual basis for each indvidual ~ its all realtive), your freedom, your relative sanity per your state of mind? Your ahead of the "game" compared to most people in the world. Talk to me! 1
Author tecra Posted September 23, 2012 Author Posted September 23, 2012 That sounds all well and good except my wife wont let me work or volunteer, I am not allowed to play sport or really do anything which will put me in contact with other people. I dont sit around and do nothing because I want to. I would really like to volunteer etc but if I said this to my wife that this was what I wanted, her response would be. "what will i do while you go on your little midlife crisis, use me up until you find something else you want to do, I'll just be the good little housewife shall I with your tea ready when you get home, Go! but dont bother coming back"
MonsterMash Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 That sounds all well and good except my wife wont let me work or volunteer, I am not allowed to play sport or really do anything which will put me in contact with other people. I dont sit around and do nothing because I want to. I would really like to volunteer etc but if I said this to my wife that this was what I wanted, her response would be. "what will i do while you go on your little midlife crisis, use me up until you find something else you want to do, I'll just be the good little housewife shall I with your tea ready when you get home, Go! but dont bother coming back" I'd have a quick come to Jesus meeting with her. A woman doesn't "let" me do anything. Find your balls man. If you want to be miserable, you can do that on your own. You don't need her help. 2
Gunny376 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 I'd have a quick come to Jesus meeting with her. A woman doesn't "let" me do anything. Find your balls man. If you want to be miserable, you can do that on your own. You don't need her help. Amen to that! 2
Steen719 Posted September 23, 2012 Posted September 23, 2012 Amen to that! I am a woman and I say Amen to that! 2
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