What is the problem when it comes to dating issues not seeing what your own gender...

[joystickd]

does to contribute to problems in addition to the opposite sex. Like for example the thread about men talking about women. I got crap because I said there are women that enable. It's the truth. I could even talk about the women that complain about men that push for sex. That is because there are women that give up sex quickly. Men complain about golddigger but there are men that have no issue spending excessive amounts of money on women. In a lot of cases there are enablers in these issues and 100% of the time its your own sex. We all as humans do what works. If I go fishing and catch a 10 lb bass with a purple lure more than once then that is what I will continue to use. The same principle applies to dating. If you want to change things then you need to call your own gender on it too.

[surlyboy]

does to contribute to problems in addition to the opposite sex. Like for example the thread about men talking about women. I got crap because I said there are women that enable. It's the truth. I could even talk about the women that complain about men that push for sex. That is because there are women that give up sex quickly. Men complain about golddigger but there are men that have no issue spending excessive amounts of money on women. In a lot of cases there are enablers in these issues and 100% of the time its your own sex. We all as humans do what works. If I go fishing and catch a 10 lb bass with a purple lure more than once then that is what I will continue to use. The same principle applies to dating. If you want to change things then you need to call your own gender on it too.

 

Women always stick up for each other on these issues. I love it when I get attacked for not wanting to date a fat woman. My friends GF made a comment "yea, you just broke up with her because she had a big a$$". So what? Since when is it okay to be obese? Its not healthy, it points to a low self esteem and poor lifestyle habits. Yea, I did. I don't have to date someone out of kindness.

 

I have had women date me who were on the rebound that used me for sex and wanted me to spend money on them. They needed healing and attention and used me like a footstool to get it. I've seen guys do the same thing. If anyone is calling you out on the issues you described, its because they are unwilling to see the world for what it is. You have to be sure it does not make you bitter. Thats all you can do. You control who comes into your inner circle, so its up to you to screen people during the dating process and find a good match for you. That gold digger will make someone happy someday and the fat person will find someone who is okay with that. Healthy people will find each other too. There are a lot of fish in the sea.