amyli Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 This guy and I met on a dating site about a month ago. We messaged each other constantly throughout the day and spoke on the phone in the evening for a couple of weeks. During that time, he'd asked if I'd like to meet up for lunch and a show last Saturday when he'd be in town. I'd agreed. We did not speak much during the third week. I'd noticed that although he was always the one calling, it was always me starting the messaging. I didn't want to seem too keen, so cut down on the messaging. Given the lack of contact when I didn't make an effort, I messaged him saying I wasn't sure I would be able to make it on Saturday, that I might have a study group session that afternoon and that I wasn't too keen on a late night anyway due to upcoming exams. He called me shortly after to say that he'd still like to meet up and that we could skip the show or leave early. We chatted for quite a while and I agreed at the end to meet him for lunch only. We had lunch and it was great, with conversation flowing easily. At the end, he asked if I was sure I didn't want to go to the show (I'd mentioned my study group session was scheduled for Sunday earlier on) and that he'd be happy to leave early and that he'd drive me back to where I left my car (this was not on his way and added almost an hour to his journey home). I agreed after some hesitation and we went to the show. It went well there too but it was a bit awkward at the end. I said I really enjoyed myself and thanked him for a nice time. He said to keep in touch. I wasn't sure how to say goodbye and I opted for a wave rather than hug/kiss. Afterwards, I wondered whether I was a bit too casual, so made sure to message him to thank him again and to keep the conversation going. I asked him the next day whether he thought we'd meet up again sometime and whether it was worth carrying on messaging and talking on the phone. He said he'd like to keep in touch and meet up again (he's probably going to be in town next month so I won't know until then whether he meant it or not). We carried on that way for a couple more days and then, as before, to test him, I didn't message for the past three days. Result: quiet! I really don't get it. Is he actually interested in me or not? He seems to have gone to a lot of effort for someone not interested, but if he is, then why not start up the conversation? After three days of no talking, I was expecting at least a message checking I was ok.
CaptJay Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Doesn't seem interested following the date. Sorry. cj
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