ANGRY & HURT - His happiness has a price and I want the world to know it!

[wega]

Yes, I am angry and hurt and desperately need help getting over it - just letting it go!

 

Boyfriend of three years, although mutually on and off this past six months. The entire three years no one else has been in the picture for either of us. We would take a break and not worry about the other finding someone else.

 

Anyway, June 17th he calls and says he needs a break. Same night I find out I am pregnant. I did not call him. He is in college right now and I just did not know how to tell him. I just knew he would be calling.

 

He did finally call on June 28th to tell me if it had not been for me he would not be alive. He went on to say I had saved him and he was very grateful. He loves me, loves my family, and loves my son, but he was not in love with me. He meet someone else and really fallen for her. She is in one of his classes this summer.

 

I was at work and somehow muttered, "Okay - well that is probably for the best. Good luck." and I hung up. I had to leave my office immediately before I freaked out in front of the professional world.

 

I had an abortion that very same week and now he is engaged as of July 21st. In his own words "happy as a lark".

 

Why do I want the world to know his happiness is my nightmare?

[StartingAgain]

First off, let me say I am so sorry about what happened to you and the circumstances that forced you to an abortion. I wouldn't presume to ever second guess your decision on that, but I do hope you are getting some support.

 

"Why do I want the world to know his happiness is my nightmare?"

 

Because that's the way you feel and you are reaching out in a time of extremity. Here we are. Understand this: He breaks up with you a week ago today and became engaged a mere three days ago. What an idiot! Obviously he's either been involved with this woman for some time behind your back, or he's completely out of his f'ing mind. If he has been involved with her, she either doesn't know about his relationship with you, or is the sort of gal who doesn't care. If it's the former, she will probably find out one day and things will go badly for him. If it's the latter, I gaurantee things will go badly for him. He may be happy as a lark now, but he's going to be miserable before he knows it.

 

Hey, everyone, let's begin a campaign to eliminate this BS of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" in our lifetime. Those who say this are either lying or don't understand the nature of love. It's just an excuse.

[reasontosigh]

Originally posted by StartingAgain

......Hey, everyone, let's begin a campaign to eliminate this BS of "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" in our lifetime. .......

 

Sounds good to me!

[jenpanda]

[color=blue][/color]..too true. Sounds like he is either very flaky or has been sneaking around behind your back for a while.. Possible for those six months when you two weren't as close as you once were. Either way, and even though it seems ridiculous at the moment, you are a better person without him. Karma will come around and kick his butt..

 

good luck..

jen

[mronederful]

you are right jen it's all on the wheel baby!! what goes around comes around. things don't always work out the way we want them too and sometimes it's a good thing

 

in the mean time, ruin the bastard! hell hath no fury as a woman scorned

 

ruthless women driven by pure vengeful hate are sooooo sexy! git er done!

[Debster]

Thank your lucky stars you found out about him now rather than wasting even more years. Don't get revenge. Don't get pissed. Don't get even. Realize you do have a right to be hurt and upset but you can't make someone choose you or decide to stay in love with you. You deserve someone who will love you forever. Good luck.