kaylan Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 (edited) ^Knew what? I blew a hole in your argument. I prefer WOMEN MY AGE because I am more compatible with them. But when it comes to younger vs older women, the older woman would win out. Read what I say without jumping to conclusions that arent even written. Edited September 24, 2012 by kaylan
Kamille Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 Yes, nowhere in MissJoness' opening post does she specifically ask "Women in your 30s, do 25 year old men still want to have a relationship with you?" I assumed she was asking us if men relatively our age were still interested in us (for relationship or casual fun). Answer: yes. 1
Pyro Posted September 24, 2012 Posted September 24, 2012 I knew it. Most helpful posting of the year.
threebyfate Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 The minute the clock struck 12:01 a.m. on the day of my 30th birthday, all the skin on my body sagged to the ground. Then my eyes turned rheumy, hair turned solid white and my ankles thickened like tree trunks. It was horrible, just horrible! 2
Kamille Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 The minute the clock struck 12:01 a.m. on the day of my 30th birthday, all the skin on my body sagged to the ground. Then my eyes turned rheumy, hair turned solid white and my ankles thickened like tree trunks. It was horrible, just horrible! But even then, men still hit on her! Proof? She met and married her hubby in her 30s, this in spite of the tree trunk ankles. 2
CptSaveAho Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 ^Knew what? I blew a hole in your argument. I prefer WOMEN MY AGE because I am more compatible with them. But when it comes to younger vs older women, the older woman would win out. Read what I say without jumping to conclusions that arent even written. You are 25.... you have a lot more time to realize that what you say will backfire. Start dating older women and stop "talking" about it like you know what you are doing. I will assure you have dating 2 older ones for at least 3+ months, you will jump ship to the younger club. Older guys choose to date younger ones because of less emotional baggage (not attractiveness). Its that simple. Women get hosed worse then guys do emotionally as they get older and they go through the dating/relationship mine fields. I have dated some fun/attractive women in their 30s but I would not enter into a relationship or even consider marriage with them. Reasons: They aren't sane, have kids, I would pay for crimes I didnt commit from their past relationships, etc. If you look at the women on this forum in their 30s, they are all STILL here. Its very difficult to find a MAN for them because the MEN aren't stupid. So what do they choose to date, the "younger" crowd, the idiots, or the ones that future fake them or just want sex. **** this post was created by one. Asking the question. My challenge to you and any older female sympathizer (thewhoolagan) date a woman in her 30s for a couple months then come back here and report on it
threebyfate Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 But even then, men still hit on her! Proof? She met and married her hubby in her 30s, this in spite of the tree trunk ankles.The tree trunk ankles weren't the worst problem. Tripping on sagging skin was horrible especially with the 1" cataracts that reduced my vision. 2
Kamille Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 The tree trunk ankles weren't the worst problem. Tripping on sagging skin was horrible especially with the 1" cataracts that reduced my vision. And don't forget all the emotional baggage you lugged around and what hell your hubby had to pay for all your past relationships. I can't wait to fool the next guy into putting up with me and my sagging skin. 2
threebyfate Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 And don't forget all the emotional baggage you lugged around and what hell your hubby had to pay for all your past relationships. I can't wait to fool the next guy into putting up with me and my sagging skin.H. is so big and strong so he didn't and doesn't mind hauling my baggage around! Don't settle for some weak thing who won't take care of everything for you. You go girl! 2
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 You are 25.... you have a lot more time to realize that what you say will backfire. Start dating older women and stop "talking" about it like you know what you are doing. I will assure you have dating 2 older ones for at least 3+ months, you will jump ship to the younger club. Older guys choose to date younger ones because of less emotional baggage (not attractiveness). Its that simple. Women get hosed worse then guys do emotionally as they get older and they go through the dating/relationship mine fields. I have dated some fun/attractive women in their 30s but I would not enter into a relationship or even consider marriage with them. Reasons: They aren't sane, have kids, I would pay for crimes I didnt commit from their past relationships, etc. If you look at the women on this forum in their 30s, they are all STILL here. Its very difficult to find a MAN for them because the MEN aren't stupid. So what do they choose to date, the "younger" crowd, the idiots, or the ones that future fake them or just want sex. **** this post was created by one. Asking the question. My challenge to you and any older female sympathizer (thewhoolagan) date a woman in her 30s for a couple months then come back here and report on it I did, dated a 35 year old with kids and it was great. Yes there is downfalls but there's plenty of benefits to.
CptSaveAho Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I did, dated a 35 year old with kids and it was great. Yes there is downfalls but there's plenty of benefits to. Right a 23 year old dating a 35 year old with 4 kids.... point proven http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/346482-how-know-when-move-get-back-together It was great? LOL posting in the breakup forum about how great it was! They are ruined and settling for people that dont know what they are up against.
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) Right a 23 year old dating a 35 year old with 4 kids.... point proven http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/346482-how-know-when-move-get-back-together It was great? LOL posting in the breakup forum about how great it was! They are ruined and settling for people that dont know what they are up against. There was definitely lots of emotional baggage there i'm not going to lie (primarily because of a cheating ex, and being emotionally abused), but the other benefits that come with someone more mature are also great. Why does it matter how it ended up? There is 1, maybe 0 relationships in your lifetime that don't end...... How are they ruined? Yes having kids makes them tougher to date, but i'm willing to bet most women are worth it, from my experience it was. For one, they are not self centered, they know how to put others first instead of thinking the world revolves around them like a lot of younger girls. They support themselves and don't need any man to do it for them, and are independent. If you've never done it, you have no idea what you're talking about. Edited September 25, 2012 by suladas
CptSaveAho Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 There was definitely lots of emotional baggage there i'm not going to lie (primarily because of a cheating ex, and being emotionally abused), but the other benefits that come with someone more mature are also great. Why does it matter how it ended up? There is 1, maybe 0 relationships in your lifetime that don't end...... How are they ruined? Yes having kids makes them tougher to date, but i'm willing to bet most women are worth it, from my experience it was. For one, they are not self centered, they know how to put others first instead of thinking the world revolves around them like a lot of younger girls. They support themselves and don't need any man to do it for them, and are independent. If you've never done it, you have no idea what you're talking about. at 23 I wasnt dating my mom or someone that was a mom. i had enough self love and respect to find someone that i could go travelling with without the need for a babysitter or a daycare in your case. this is something you aren't grasping, you took on a whole airport of baggage for what? sex? thats the whole premise of this thread... women 30s its over. look at what they dated... a 23 year old kid that doesnt know any better. she was taking candy from a baby. she had you fooled.
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 (edited) So at 23 you want to date a women who is 35, 4 kids, cheating Ex husband, emotional abused and other baggage? Really? Is that the best you can do? Why not find a girl near or around your own age?Whatever benefits you think your Ex had to offer... The negatives far outweigh them! I'm sorry but in what universe does the fact that someone got cheated on and treated badly by a ex make them less dateable? If anything it makes them more datable, they know how it feels to be cheated on, and in my opinion are much less likely to do it to someone else. Age is a number, it really doesn't mean much. Normally 4 kids is a no-go for me, it was strictly the custody situation and the ages that made it ok, and the fact that it was basically only 2 kids full time. But yes if you must know, the big reason it ended was because neither of us had any idea if there was a future there, and she just didn't want to be in a serious relationship at this point. I'm doing that now, actually going on a date with someone tomorrow. Part of the reason i'm a bit happy it's over is that now i'm able to see what else is out there as I haven't dated much. To be 100% honest i'd rather be with someone my own age. But then again, as much as I want kids. I have ZERO interest in ever being a single parent, maybe it's not as bad as it looks but I look at most of them and I think that's the last thing in the world I want, who knows though maybe it changes when you have kids. But at the same time, if I had kids I would want to be in their life and not some deadbeat. So i'm kinda in a tough spot, considering the likelyhood of divorce nowdays. Edited September 25, 2012 by suladas
Woggle Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I'm sorry but in what universe does the fact that someone got cheated on and treated badly by a ex make them less dateable? If anything it makes them more datable, they know how it feels to be cheated on, and in my opinion are much less likely to do it to someone else. Age is a number, it really doesn't mean much. Normally 4 kids is a no-go for me, it was strictly the custody situation and the ages that made it ok, and the fact that it was basically only 2 kids full time. But yes if you must know, the big reason it ended was because neither of us had any idea if there was a future there, and she just didn't want to be in a serious relationship at this point. I'm doing that now, actually going on a date with someone tomorrow. Part of the reason i'm a bit happy it's over is that now i'm able to see what else is out there as I haven't dated much. To be 100% honest i'd rather be with someone my own age. But then again, as much as I want kids. I have ZERO interest in ever being a single parent, maybe it's not as bad as it looks but I look at most of them and I think that's the last thing in the world I want, who knows though maybe it changes when you have kids. But at the same time, if I had kids I would want to be in their life and not some deadbeat. So i'm kinda in a tough spot, considering the likelyhood of divorce nowdays. Sometimes this happens and other times it just makes them bitter and angry towards the opposite sex in general.
suladas Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Sometimes this happens and other times it just makes them bitter and angry towards the opposite sex in general. No doubt she was bitter and angry and that's why she was single for over 3 years after. I would be to, she was cheated on, then gave him another shot got married and pregnant to find out he was cheating again. But getting to know each other as neighbors she fell for me as I did for her, that why I didn't even consider the kids or anything because I wasn't even expecting to fall for her. I'm actually quite happy to know that I changed her view on men back and showed her there is still good men out there. It wasn't like she trapped me or I was just "there", she got asked out by another neighbor and turned him down before we went out.
gaius Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I'm pretty obsessed with a woman in her 30's right now. Listening to her sleep over the phone as we speak.
Titania22 Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 In time, you will find out that you didn't change a thing. You can't assume that. All people are just as capable of changing and evolving our ideas of what is true, and those of us that do change, do so in part because of the example we are given by other people. After my marriage it would have been well understandable if I had decided all men suck and decided to hate them for my lifetime. Instead I had different experiences with men, some postive and some negative in different ways, and came to realise that all men are individuals with their own good and bad qualities (just like women). There is no telling that I would have come to this conclusion if it hadn't been for the efforts and example of one particularly good man. Because I him, no matter how bleak things may look, I will always have hope of meeting other such men.
Chicago_Guy Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Most men in their 30s generally prefer younger women because the younger women are usually more physically attractive. Just about every man will settle for a mature younger women if he thinks she is classy and will be loyal to him. Regarding the original question on this thread, I believe that every woman gets far less attention in her 30s, especially as she ages toward 40, than she does in her 20s unless she lost a lot of weight in her 30s, had surgery to fix a physical deformity, or greatly improved her fashion sense.
Anela Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I know someone whose husband is about eighteen years older than she is. He admitted that he was happy when she finally started to show her age, because he was tired of feeling like a dirty old man, whenever they went somewhere together. He didn't have a preference for younger women, he just fell in love with her.
Anela Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 The minute the clock struck 12:01 a.m. on the day of my 30th birthday, all the skin on my body sagged to the ground. Then my eyes turned rheumy, hair turned solid white and my ankles thickened like tree trunks. It was horrible, just horrible! This made me laugh out loud. I felt great when I was thirty, even better at thirty-two. I know someone else who looked and felt her best in her late thirties, before she got sick. My mother looked good into her fifties, as did my father. My dad told me that when he got back together with my mother, she was in her forties, and he still thought that she was sexy as hell, and beautiful. He's always loved her, and has no plans to ditch her for a younger model. 1
Emilia Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 Regarding the original question on this thread, I believe that every woman gets far less attention in her 30s, especially as she ages toward 40, than she does in her 20s unless she lost a lot of weight in her 30s, had surgery to fix a physical deformity, or greatly improved her fashion sense. You have a lot to learn. How much attention you get is often related to your personality and character not just your looks. As you mature hopefully you improve on who you were in your 20s and many men will find that attractive. 3
Chicago_Guy Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 You have a lot to learn. How much attention you get is often related to your personality and character not just your looks. As you mature hopefully you improve on who you were in your 20s and many men will find that attractive. Uh, no - women really do get more attention when they are in their 20s than they do in their 30s because they are more attractive at that age. You need to ask a man this question and if he is honest he will tell you the same thing that I wrote. Women really are deluding themselves if they think they become more attractive with age, because it is simply isn't true. 1
lino Posted September 25, 2012 Posted September 25, 2012 I've always been involved with and preferred women not too far from my age. I'm 30 and I'd not seriously get involved with a woman younger than 24 or over 34. For a quick screw is a different story My girlfriend is 28. I look much more at what a woman has done in her years, rather than the amount of years themselves - that means a lot more to me.
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