MissJoness Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 to the women in their 30s do you still have as many men chasing after you as you did in your 20s? do you still look just as young?? be honest
ThaWholigan Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 #inb4answers. I'm a man of 24 and I like women in their 30s. 8
veggirl Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Still look as young as *what*? 26? 21? 15? 4?! I am 29, so I will find out if men still chase me in my 30s in 7 months. 1
CptObvious Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Yes, because they're easier to deal with.
GirlontheLam Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I am 34. I am feeling a little more popular at the moment than I have since approximately college. Unfortunately, it always seems to be the 25 year olds. [which constitutes a slightly larger problem] Most people say I look pretty young, typically I am pegged at somewhere between 24-28.
sweetheart5381 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I'm in my 30s and yes, have plenty of men that are attracted to me. I don't look just as "young", that's just reality. I am 37 with 3 kids, 15, 14 and 6 yrs old. I am not a supermodel, not a diva, don't have a "perfect" body but what I do have is self-respect and I feel comfortable in my own skin. That is what your 30's offers you as a woman. It is also the time when your sexuality peaks... mostly because you come to accept and love both your assets and your faults. I am truly independent now... I choose to not get into a relationship for the sake of having someone - I'm perfectly comfortable on my own these days. I think to some men I seem to be a challenge and they therefore pursue with haste. That is simply not true, I am not a challenge to be won. For the right man, the man that respects and understands me fully, I will be a breeze to catch 3
Author MissJoness Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 I'm in my 30s and yes, have plenty of men that are attracted to me. I don't look just as "young", that's just reality. I am 37 with 3 kids, 15, 14 and 6 yrs old. I am not a supermodel, not a diva, don't have a "perfect" body but what I do have is self-respect and I feel comfortable in my own skin. That is what your 30's offers you as a woman. It is also the time when your sexuality peaks... mostly because you come to accept and love both your assets and your faults. I am truly independent now... I choose to not get into a relationship for the sake of having someone - I'm perfectly comfortable on my own these days. I think to some men I seem to be a challenge and they therefore pursue with haste. That is simply not true, I am not a challenge to be won. For the right man, the man that respects and understands me fully, I will be a breeze to catch when did you start looking not as young? I mean do the men still value you? from what society says it seems like women just are not seen as valuable to men once they are not in their 20s anymore
suladas Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I'm 23 and dated a 35 year old, didn't look even 30 though. There are plenty of really hot women over 30. And plenty of advantages over a 20 something year old. Although at my age I would not seek one out again for a LTR, been there done that. But if I was just looking for casual fun, it would be a women in her 30's for sure.
suladas Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 when did you start looking not as young? I mean do the men still value you? from what society says it seems like women just are not seen as valuable to men once they are not in their 20s anymore I noticed on facebook my ex at 30 looked early 20's. However in the past 5 years she did show some signs of aging, but still looked maybe late twenties or 30 at most. Still very good for her age and having kids. Something about older women is hot though.
CarrieT Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I have had WAY more men chasing after me in my 40s than the previous two decades, so there. 7
Silly_Girl Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I don't look as young as I did in my twenties, naturally. But I FEEL younger. Back then I was clawing my way up the male-dominated career ladder, studying in my spare time, mum to one, very involved step-mum to two, twat of a boyfriend and plenty of drama thrown in. Life couldn't be more different, my approach to life has changed also, and when I've found myself single in my thirties I've certainly not been short of offers.
Negative Nancy Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Although at my age I would not seek one out again for a LTR, been there done that. But if I was just looking for casual fun, it would be a women in her 30's for sure. This is pretty much the gist of it. I think women in their 30s still DO get approached by men, but only for sex, not for something serious. 1
Titania22 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 This is pretty much the gist of it. I think women in their 30s still DO get approached by men, but only for sex, not for something serious. This was my experience, except for my early to mid 30's when I was approached by men 45-55 for relationships. I wasn't interested. Now at 40 I don't get approached for any reason. 1
iris219 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I am approached less by appropriate, datable men now that I'm in my 30s because there are WAY fewer single men. The men who approach are in their 20s (happened last night ), in their 60s (happened this week at the the coffeeshop ), or married (is happening at work ). If there was a pool of 30 something, single men like there was when I was in my 20s, I'd get approached more because I'm more attractive than most 30 somethings, whereas in my 20s almost every girl I knew was pretty attractive.
xxoo Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I'm 23 and dated a 35 year old, didn't look even 30 though. There are plenty of really hot women over 30. And plenty of advantages over a 20 something year old. Although at my age I would not seek one out again for a LTR, been there done that. But if I was just looking for casual fun, it would be a women in her 30's for sure. This is pretty much the gist of it. I think women in their 30s still DO get approached by men, but only for sex, not for something serious. But he's 23! Men in their 30s and 40s will have serious relationships with women in their 30s, but few 23 year olds would. 1
yongyong Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Absolutely yes In my early 20s, I met a woman 9 years older than me. I didn't have a problem since she looked my age. (in general, man can't be with a woman who looks older. It's not about age. she could be younger) But I had a serious thought, 'would I still love this woman when I turn 30? she would be almost 40 and I could still go out with 24 year old.' Let's say a guy is dating someone 5 years older. He can date someone 5 years younger. that's 10 years apart. Wouldn't he be tempted to drop her and move on to 10 years younger girl than her? (don't talk about 'personality'. being older doesn't mean you have a better personality) My goal? find a younger girl who's mature with her mind But he's 23! Men in their 30s and 40s will have serious relationships with women in their 30s, but few 23 year olds would.
xxoo Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Let's say a guy is dating someone 5 years older. He can date someone 5 years younger. that's 10 years apart. Wouldn't he be tempted to drop her and move on to 10 years younger girl than her? Men worth having don't "drop" someone they care about, and feel partnership with, just because they could move on to a younger woman. That's silly. 4
january2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I was never one of those girls/women who couldn't walk ten feet without guys making cat calls in the street. I was more the boy/geek/jock next door's friend crush. My minor foray into online dating suggests that I'm not completely out of the game. However, the only I guy I want to want me is my SO. I'm really not interested in attention from any other guy(s). If I were single, perhaps it would be a different story. I do think I look young for my age, but that's mainly because I'm petite and a size 0-2. Though my SO tells me that I'm filled out in the right places. I've found that my hairstyle, wearing makeup and my clothing choices make a big difference in whether I look closer to my age or not. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I can see signs of aging in me now... I saw literally zero before. But at 33, time is catching up with me. Still get plenty of attention, it's always from the wrong guys though. Same as in my 20s. There are much less single guys and guys I am willing to date because they are divorced and have kids from previous relationships. I won't kid you, it gets tougher. I don't feel it's because of looks though.
Kamila Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Yes, I still get the attention from the men (young and old). I have the impression that they don't only look at good looks, but also at your wallet and whether you could sustain them. Golddiggers !!! I studied during my 20's (I love books), made sure I have a fat CV and that I won't need to chase for a rich man (and be a bimbo next to the his fat ego). Now men are chasing me because they know I've got the dough and the brains :laugh:
bobsmith76 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 As a 35 year old guy I can say that I'm not interested in women 36 or over. I want to get married and I want to spend about 2 years with my wife before she has kids because after she has kids she will love them more which is understandable. Plus I would like to have 2 kids so given the facts of biology if I date a woman 36 or older I won't be able to have 2 kids and spend 2 years alone with her. Sadly for me, some of the women I've pursued who are 34 or 35 are not sufficiently terrified of becoming an old maid and they brush off my interest thinking they will be able to find someone else before it's too late.
jobaba Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 (edited) I'm a man in my 30s. White women age worse than Asian and Black women and Latina women are somewhere in the middle. My Asian ex-girlfriend is 40 now, but could pass for 30 or younger easily. Another one of my exes is 32 and Latina but looks that age or older. I have been introduced to some of my friend's friends who were white women and told they were like 33 when they looked at least 45. That said, almost all women will continue to enjoy the benefits of being chased after and having options up until their 40s or so (at least those who got attention in the first place). Then, they will be unable to sustain the physical lust that garners them the attention they are used to. I do see SOME women in their 40s that I think are attractive. But I am VERY lenient, FAR from the normal discriminatory male, and pretty old myself. Edited September 22, 2012 by jobaba
xxoo Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I do see SOME women in their 40s that I think are attractive. But I am VERY lenient, FAR from the normal discriminatory male, and pretty old myself. I love it when the men here stay how "lenient" or non superficial they are, and criticize women's appearance in the same breath The OP asked about women in their 30s. Women in their 40s are often attractive to men in their 40s and 50s. It is true that the pool of physically attractive people (women or men) gets smaller with each decade, but that's true for both sexes. 3
ThaWholigan Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 But by 30 most women have lost their looks. Long gone by that time. No they haven't 4
ThaWholigan Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Yes they have. No they haven't (I could do this all day) 8
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