quasarkin Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Long story short, this is about my ex gf, which i met in college. A few days ago, i got an e-mail from her, which i admit was a bit shocking. In it, she said that she knows its a little shocking her contacting me, said that she didnt have my number and didnt wanna ask anyone for it. She explained that she wanted to talk to someone that really knows her and that she's going through a weird stage. She left her number asking to contact her if im not still resentful. So i decided to call her later that day (got the mail in the morning, spent the whole day thinking if i should do it, in the evening i decided to call her). So we got to talking, the conversation was pleasant. After a while i asked her whats all this about (her contacting me after all this time). She started explaining how a week before she got together with some friends and started talking about all her ex's and they told her that i was the only one that trully loved her and she realized what a really great guy i was. The conversation went really good, she was very sweet and nice, really seemed interested in how i was doing. She sort of slipped 1-2 times, saying some things we would say to each other when we were together, then followed by silence from both, she would correct herself, trying not to make a big deal out of it. She asked me if im dating anyone, told her i am not atm (which is true btw), asked her if she is, she said she`s also not seeing anyone curently. She also asked if i wanna go for coffee when she comes back in town (was out of town for 1 week or so i think...). I told her, yeah sure. Also she tried to apologize for the things she did the previous year and all the stuff that happened before, but i tried not to make a big deal out of it, saying it doesnt matter anymore, that it was a long time ago and changed the subject. After we hung up, about one hour later, i get a text from her, saying she sent me a song that reminds her of me (enrique iglesias - somebody's me), i was like WTF... I reply to her at about 3 in the morning when i got home, asking her if she really meant it when she said it reminds her of me and if she really feels like the song. She replies 2 hours later, around 5 in the morning and tbh i didnt really understand what she said, saying something like: "tbh she think's that's me in the song and she aint doing anything to make me feel like im crazy in love and when people told her how i really was, she thought i was a great guy." I really didnt know what to make of that text, but considering it was sent at 5 in the morning, means she struggled 2hours thinking what to text me back and she wrote that bull****, trying to focus attention on me, i dont know... So i didnt reply anything... She calls me back after 2 days, saying she didnt hear from me in 2 days, i told her i was busy (which was true), chatted a little, had to cut the conversation short, told her i`ll call her back later, which i did, but she didnt answer. 3 days passed since then. I dont know if i should call her or what to do... P.S. She was the love of my life (still is? i dont know really...), never felt anything for someone else like i did for her. I broke up with her. This happened about 2,5 years ago. When we broke up i NC hard for 3 months, wanted her back, tried to talk with her, things didnt go as i had hoped so i went NC again for 1 year until she made contact with me. She was acting as if she would like to get back, she was the one suggesting to meet for coffee etc and talk. At one point, knowing i still wanted her back, she suggested that maybe i should try harder, impress her. So i sent her some flowers, during one of her classes, things went totally south, i have no idea why she reacted that bad. Found out from one of my friends, that she wanted to teach me a lesson (for dumping her) so i decided i should put it all behind me and leave her be, before i start giving her any more satisfaction. Another year of NC went by, which brings us to the prezent.
not-a-drive-by Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 I think she wants you back, but is afraid that you may not be interested anymore. Hence, bringing up past memories, calling you and sending you that song. She wants to know how you feel, but you haven't really given her much interest (didn't respond to that text for 2 days!). If I was in her position, I would deduct that you have zero interest, and I would try to move on again. If you do have feelings for her, you should re-initiate some contact with her - especially since you were the dumper.
Author quasarkin Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 I think she wants you back, but is afraid that you may not be interested anymore. Hence, bringing up past memories, calling you and sending you that song. She wants to know how you feel, but you haven't really given her much interest (didn't respond to that text for 2 days!). If I was in her position, I would deduct that you have zero interest, and I would try to move on again. If you do have feelings for her, you should re-initiate some contact with her - especially since you were the dumper. Yes, you are perhaps right but in the past when i showed interest she backed away real fast and acted as if i was the one doing i dont know what weird stuff... Said she needed more space, so i gave her that. Now i am just trying to take things slow and not rush in to anything.
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