Felicity Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 Hey guys! You wont believe what happened to me yesterday, I wanted to go out with my friends to a club, and I told my friends since Monday and supposedly we were going (actually I wanted to go so bad because my ex loves that place) anyways Friday morning I called my friend (the one I was going with) but she never answered, I called her all day and she wasn’t home I think she went out of town. I was so sad and desperate, I couldn’t find none of my friends by 10 pm I just knew I wasn’t going anywhere. So I got out of the internet and I called my ex L well actually I called him it rang one time and hanged up.. YES YES I know. It was like a 14-year-old attitude. Anyways I left the phone in the living room and went to my room, and couple minutes later he called me back I didn’t answer it cause I didn’t heard it but I went to check and his phone number was there.. so I called him and told him “You know what I’m calling you because I’m acting like a 14 year old, calling you and hanging up. I just want to know say HI” anyways he told me that he called me at work that same day (yesterday Friday) but I didn’t answer he told me something that happened to him at work and stuff. He told me that he had some pictures that I took with his camera. That whenever I wanted to he could bring them to me. I told him oh ok, you could bring them when you have time or send them to me. He told me are you going out? And I said nop and he told me “I could bring them to you today?” and I said well, if you are not going anywhere, fine with me. So he came… and when we saw each other it wasn’t different at all it was like if we where in a vacation and saw each other again, we started flirting. And everything was like if nothing had happened we didn’t talk about it, you know if we missed each other etc etc.. We made love!!! (Somewhere else) it was like if we were never apart. I don’t know. It’s weird the only thing that I told him is that friends don’t kiss, (in the mouth) you know all that stuff and when I told him that, he looked disappointed I could tell in his expression it was like “Oh, ok?” but he didn’t say anything he just kept looking at the air. I know he didn’t have anything to do with another girl I could tell, at least in the sex part. When we were in bed after all the mess haha we snuggle he hugged me and I hugged him (and like when I’m in a position were I can’t move I get really desperate) anyways we were in the hugging position and I wanted to move!! you know like turn the other side (oh and he felt at sleep, hugging me hahaha) I couldn’t move cause when I tried to move he hugged me harder well, you don’t care but I LIKE THAT hahaha what do you guys think?? Oh! One thing I didn’t like you know we went to his house to do “that stuff” so I took my house keys and when we came back he brought me in his mothers car so I left my house keys in his car, I didn’t notice it until I was outside my house, so I told him he said wanna go for them (its like a 15 min driving) I said no.. that’s ok and then he told me “do you want me to bring them to you at work” and I was like (thinking) he doesn’t want to see me Saturday or Sunday! What the fusk! I’m not sure if he said that because I was telling him that we were friends you know cause I kept telling him that we were a couple but not anymore. I don’t know what to think! I wont know that until tonight if he calls me. What if he just told me that because of what I said. I don’t know, what do you think?? FELICITY
faux Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 I think that you may be setting yourself up for a rather huge disappointment, and quite a bit of pain. You may very well be more hopeful of getting back with this ex, than he is of entering another relationship with you. You seem to be confused, and quite scatter-brained over this entire situation. I believe it would have been a good idea not to call him. I think it would have been best for you not to have actively sought out at least one place you know that he frequents. You seemed very geared toward finding your ex at that club. I would advise you to have a discussion with your ex about what that evening meant to the both of you, and what you are both going to do about it. I also suggest that you not actively seek him out at places he often visits. I would even go so far as to suggest that, if you two cannot reach a truly mutual agreement on your situation, that you no longer speak with him.
zay Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 I know it sounds and feels really good right now but you are playing with a doulble edged sword, please be careful, the pain is worst later. Trust me ! Take it slow! no expectations! everything must come from him.
t866 Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Felicity- I'm going through the same thing, "hooking-up" with the ex. It feels good cause it's him your ex. Do you want to get back together with him? It sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too!!! BEWARE, if your hoping to get back together. Go out have fun, go to clubs. This past weekend was the first time I went out with friends since me and my ex broke-up 3 weeks ago. And it felt great to go out,dance and hang-out with friends. If you do love him that's fine but don't wait around for him move on. Don't let him make or break your life. You can live without him. Hey girls can play too, just don't expect to get back together just cause you have sex. Go out have fun!!! You'll realize that you don't need him to make you happy only you can make yourself happy. Be with someone who is complimentary not supplementary. GOOD LUCK!!!! And never give more then what your getting!!!!
Author Felicity Posted July 27, 2004 Author Posted July 27, 2004 OK.. He came yesterday and took me to eat (in my lunch break) as usually we didn't talk but then when he took me back to work i told him that this will be the last time we will see each other he looked sad.. and then he told me if that is what i want, he'll respect that. Then he told we could someday go to the movies or to eat. and I just told him..........."someday" Later I called him and I told him, I'm going to tell you what i feel but he told me first.. well he told me that he misses me so much and then i told him that i miss him too and that i love him and i told him that i just wanted to tell him that. And that i wanted the truth He told me that he didn't know what to say, that he doesn't really know what he feels, that he doesn't want to get back together and then in a couple of months break up again. He says that there is alot going on his mind right now and that he's sorry but he's not sure, he said that the last think he wanted to do is hurt me, and that is what he did, that he's sorry. HE also told me "I can't say i don't feel nothing for you cause i'll be lying" (oh and about the "He has alot going on his mind" is because his mother is really sick, and his father too) After a time where we didn't say anything he told me "i love you soo much" and i was like yeah right! oh and about the time we made love he told me that it felt right, not just sexually but emotionally he told me that he needed to feel loved, he told me that he was sorry that he didn't want to make me upset. Anyways i asked him not to call me anymore because i want to forget him and then he told me that he never thought i would be asking him that. Well I told him that if he needs anything (not about our relationship) that he can count with me. and he told me that i can count on him too, that when he calls me again is to tell me what he feels and that I should behave my self etc etc.. and that's it... What do you think?? Felicity
Author Felicity Posted July 27, 2004 Author Posted July 27, 2004 I feel much better because I told him how I felt and he told me the truth OOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHH AND I FORGOT! WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT I LOVED HIM HE TOLD ME "WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME THIS 2 MONTHS AGO?" HE ALSO TOLD ME THAT WE HAVE DONE A LOT OF THINGS THAT HE NEEDS TO PUT IT ON THE PASS OR PAST OR WHATEVER... Anyways um... how i was saying I feel better i'm pretty darn sad but I feel good and I'm going to just live my life and go out, lets see what happens in the future.. of course i'm not goint to wait for him If i find someone else that i like, i'll give him a chance.. OOOOOH ALSO WHEN HE TOLD ME THAT HE DIDN'T KNOW WHAT HE REALLY FELT, HE TOLD ME THAT "HE'S SURE THAT HE MIGHT REGRET THIS FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE, BUT HE NEED TO THINK AND BE SURE" Well that's it! Have a great day!!! Felicity
t866 Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 All I can say is if your meant to be, then your meant to be. I think it 's great that you both are thinking this through and not just getting back together cause it hurts to be apart. True Love does last!!!! Doesn't it feel so much better that you told him how you feel? Now the balls in his court. Just watch the pillow talk!!! Good Luck and stay strong. I think he does respect you a lot by saying he doesn't want to get back together and then break-up a few months later that's hey big of him to say that. See ya, oh yeah and go out and have fun!!!!
Author Felicity Posted July 27, 2004 Author Posted July 27, 2004 You're right i do feel much better!! and I am going out and have fun!!! BYeeeeeee Oh hope everything with you goes good too!!! Good Luck!!! Felicity
t866 Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 My problems are far more complicated!!!!!!Let me know how things turn out!!!! BEST OF LUCK... See ya-t866
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