collegeguy_24 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Hello all, its been a long time since I've been here and I need help for a friend of mine My friend is not so lucky as me. His mom died about 2 years ago, and he's been in a funk ever since. Me and his GF at the time helped him a bit, but he never seemed motivated to do much. Finally, last year we helped him get some motivation and he started seeking a degree in a two year program and he completed half of it. But this summer, his GF of almost 4 years broke up with him. She did not cheat, not at all. She just graduated collage and got a job that required her to travel a lot, and now she started her masters degree in another town. Long distance relationships rarely work, and because of that she grew distant, and well, things ended. My friend has not finished a degree, he's been in collage 5 years maybe, and never finished anything. With the death of his mom he grew depressed and just stopped. And then he started the two year program, and he was dumped. Now, because of bureaucratic reasons in the program, he has to wait for approval before he can continue, but the office is backlogged so its taking a while. Now, he just sits at home, playing video games and nothing else. He has no job, no school, and he just lives off his moms inheritance, which won't last forever. He says he's not depressed about the breakup, but I know otherwise. He is and he just won't admit it. He knows he needs a job and that he needs to make something of his life, but he just can't seem to be motivated enough to do it. I am doing the best I can, as right now I get the feeling I am all he really has in his life right now to push him and is concerned for his well being. I really want him to get out there, get a job, try to achieve something with his life instead of being a video game and ski bum for the rest of his life. Because his inheritance will run out and then he will be screwed. But I have no idea on what to actually do. I can only push him so much to start applying. Right now the only progress he's made is he's stopped drinking. Any help or advice will be appreciated. I want him to move on and try to achieve something like I did. He helped me move on, and I want to help him.
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