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So i knew this guy when i was younger and we just recently met to catch up and i really like him. the problem is i cant tell if he likes me. i was the one who found him on fb but he gave me his number and was really into meeting up and i had a great time and we have a lot in common. but it wasn't really a date, it was to sort of catch up and get to know each other. anyway at the end he said that i should shoot him a text and stop by his place sometime.

 

what does this mean? and how do i know if he just wants to be friends? he has a lot of friends who are girls and he seems kinda shy too. i dont wanna be too obvious and just ask him out with out knowing if he is interested. what do you think i should do???

 

thanks LS

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I know the feeling. The unfortunate truth is all you can do is ask and if he says no he says no.

 

Odds are though, he's at least a little interested if he wants you to stop by his place. Unless he has a long term GF.

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Seems to me that your actions are being ruled by fear of the unknown and rejection. You can't read his mind, nor can anyone on this site. The only way to know is to ask. I would just say I am interested in exploring more. If he was to say no, so be it.

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i am quite sure he does not have a long term girlfriend. he is the first guy i have liked in a while so i am really nervous about screwing it up.

should i ask him in person or send him a text? i really really like him. we just hung out thursday so when is too soon?

 

i really appreciate the comments already posted!

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i am quite sure he does not have a long term girlfriend. he is the first guy i have liked in a while so i am really nervous about screwing it up.

should i ask him in person or send him a text? i really really like him. we just hung out thursday so when is too soon?

 

i really appreciate the comments already posted!

 

 

Text him now. Set up a informal date....like at a coffee shop or something. When you're there with him, touch him a lot. Nothing major. Hand on his forearm, etc etc. Smile a lot. Do that thing women do where you keep playing with your hair. He'll get the hint.

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I don't think he's interested since he just asked you to stop by his house. If he liked you in that way he would ask you out properly. A man asking a woman over to his house is disrespectful in my opinion.

 

Whatever you do, please don't ask him out on a date. He'll put his hands behind his head and figure he doesn't have to do anything to get to know you. Stop being the man.

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I don't think he's interested since he just asked you to stop by his house. If he liked you in that way he would ask you out properly. A man asking a woman over to his house is disrespectful in my opinion.

 

Whatever you do, please don't ask him out on a date. He'll put his hands behind his head and figure he doesn't have to do anything to get to know you. Stop being the man.

 

I don't think that showing interest makes me "the man." I think he is just shy so I want him to know that I really do like him. And he told me to stop by because my good friend used to live in his apartment and I wanted to see what it looks like now.

 

I just want advice on how to show him that I like him

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I don't think that showing interest makes me "the man." I think he is just shy so I want him to know that I really do like him. And he told me to stop by because my good friend used to live in his apartment and I wanted to see what it looks like now.

 

I just want advice on how to show him that I like him

 

You could do the thing that girls and some boys did back in elementary school. You could write to him. I mean, if it's OK to start a RLship that way online and electronically why not on paper.

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