LostGirl11 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I think it's been about 2-3 weeks since the break up, though I'm not quite sure. I have been strictly NC. I really thought I'd be feeling a lot better than this. I'm getting really frustrated and angry with myself! He's getting on with life and I doubt he's given me a second thought, yet here I am thinking about him constantly! I'm getting fed up with it now, I just want to be me again, I want to feel normal, I want to laugh and mean it. I wish I could just pack my bags and leave the country and forget all about the knob!
Freshstart637 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Hang in there, i am at exactly 1 month today. I just blocked her from my cell, not like she was going to text or call. I want to leave the country too, but have a house and stable job here. I too wonder if they are just moving on fine, I think they are. Gah, I hate em. I miss my other half.
stemac Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 am in the same boat let all leave together lol ..... been 6-7 weeks my brain never stops.. sick of crying too.. never again will i be like this im going to be a monk :-) it will get better for us all one-day just have to play with our good friend "Time" because its all up to him
geegirl Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I think it's been about 2-3 weeks since the break up, though I'm not quite sure. I have been strictly NC. I really thought I'd be feeling a lot better than this. I'm getting really frustrated and angry with myself! He's getting on with life and I doubt he's given me a second thought, yet here I am thinking about him constantly! I'm getting fed up with it now, I just want to be me again, I want to feel normal, I want to laugh and mean it. I wish I could just pack my bags and leave the country and forget all about the knob! 2-3 weeks is nothing, Lost. It's going to take a few months to feel some relief. Everything you are feeling is normal so don't beat yourself up. Don't add to the plate. Grieving takes time and while we wish it could just go away, the only way to get past it is to go through it and that means, time, time and time.
Author LostGirl11 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 2-3 weeks is nothing, Lost. It's going to take a few months to feel some relief. Everything you are feeling is normal so don't beat yourself up. Don't add to the plate. Grieving takes time and while we wish it could just go away, the only way to get past it is to go through it and that means, time, time and time. Has it been 2 weeks geegirl? Not that it matters but it feels as though this has been going on forever. It angers me that I'm wasting all this mental energy and emotion on someone that isn't worth ****
geegirl Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Has it been 2 weeks geegirl? Not that it matters but it feels as though this has been going on forever. It angers me that I'm wasting all this mental energy and emotion on someone that isn't worth **** It feels like it is going on forever because it's all you think about. It gets worse before it gets better. I remember two months after, still feeling like a zombie. I know you are frustrated but there is no alternative. Try to refocus when you are dwelling on him. Don't keep sitting on a thought. Snap yourself out of it. No Dwelling. I know it's a waste to invest in someone that isn't worth it but when you are attached to someone, it's going to take time to reverse those love feelings and turn it into indifference. Took me months to finally hear about him and go, "Eh..." I promise you one day you will wake up, brush your teeth, shower and suddenly go, "Hey, he wasn't the first thing to come to mind!" It will be liberating!
Author LostGirl11 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 It feels like it is going on forever because it's all you think about. It gets worse before it gets better. I remember two months after, still feeling like a zombie. I know you are frustrated but there is no alternative. Try to refocus when you are dwelling on him. Don't keep sitting on a thought. Snap yourself out of it. No Dwelling. I know it's a waste to invest in someone that isn't worth it but when you are attached to someone, it's going to take time to reverse those love feelings and turn it into indifference. Took me months to finally hear about him and go, "Eh..." I promise you one day you will wake up, brush your teeth, shower and suddenly go, "Hey, he wasn't the first thing to come to mind!" It will be liberating! Yep, I need to snap out of it, but sometimes I let myself feel the pain, not sure why I do that. Like tonight, I cried, but it wasn't because I missed him it was out of pure anger, I was actually shaking. I really hope this doesn't go on for months, I already look like death. I know theres no quick fix, it's just horrible knowing that I'm doing this to myself over HIM! He who has dismissed me and who has forgotten me in an instant is seems.
MonsterMash Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I think it's been about 2-3 weeks since the break up, though I'm not quite sure. I have been strictly NC. I really thought I'd be feeling a lot better than this. I'm getting really frustrated and angry with myself! He's getting on with life and I doubt he's given me a second thought, yet here I am thinking about him constantly! I'm getting fed up with it now, I just want to be me again, I want to feel normal, I want to laugh and mean it. I wish I could just pack my bags and leave the country and forget all about the knob! Anger is good. It helps you stay warm at night. Join a gym, work on you....forget about him. He no longer matters. Take care of yourself.
Calico Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Yep, I need to snap out of it, but sometimes I let myself feel the pain, not sure why I do that. Allowing the pain to be is not a bad thing, and it's not the same as dwelling. Fighting the pain exhausts you, so instead just imagine yourself laying on a small boat floating down a stream. Just float and go with the current, downstream, and feel the pain without judging it. Let it be, toy a little with it, be curious about it, taste its texture and dive right into it (don't think scenes or situations that cause pain, don't ponder the past or the future, just feel the pain as it is right now). After a little while, the hurt will start to dissolve. But don't dwell. Dwelling is when you re-live the past over and over and tell yourself the same storylines again and again, beating yourself (or your ex) up for things that have stopped mattering a long time ago. When I start doing that, I say to myself, "I've thought these thoughts dozens of times before and I don't really have to think them again right now. Maybe later." That blunts the edge a little and works better for me than beating myself up for dwelling.
Fitnerd Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 It's been a few weeks only, give it time! I know, sucks to hear it, but like geegirl said, there are no alternatives... I've been NC for almost 2 months and while I'm feeling better, I'm far from recovered.
geegirl Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Yep, I need to snap out of it, but sometimes I let myself feel the pain, not sure why I do that. Like tonight, I cried, but it wasn't because I missed him it was out of pure anger, I was actually shaking. I really hope this doesn't go on for months, I already look like death. I know theres no quick fix, it's just horrible knowing that I'm doing this to myself over HIM! He who has dismissed me and who has forgotten me in an instant is seems. Perfectly fine to feel the pain and acknowledge it by letting it out. It's therapeutic. Dwelling on the other hand keeps you perpetually stuck. Like a broken record of bad feelings going on and on.. My therapist used to say, "it's as if you're watching tv. Watching a bad show? Well change the channel!"
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