Decorative Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Understanding that is probably quite key in not participating in an affair. 2
Radagast Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. I beg to differ. A relationship certainly can be perfect to your needs if you and your partner are both putting in the effort, and you have chosen your partner wisely.
woinlove Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I beg to differ. A relationship certainly can be perfect to your needs if you and your partner are both putting in the effort, and you have chosen your partner wisely. I guess it depends on what perfect means to you. Describing something as complex as a possibly life-long journey of two people as perfect, means to me one is not open to getting as much out of life as one can. My H and I both feel each other is the love of our life, are grateful for being able to share our lives together, and know that our bond enriches both of our lives enormously. However, we don't feel either of us are perfect or static (as in a static state of perfection), and so our relationship is also neither perfect nor static. We continue to learn and grow together in a most satisfying and enjoyable way, but perfection is not something either of us seek, as we feel there is always more to learn. We also go through stressful and difficult times together, and don't do that perfectly, but we always try our best to support each other and ourselves to the best of our abilities. 4
Decorative Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I guess it depends on what perfect means to you. Describing something as complex as a possibly life-long journey of two people as perfect, means to me one is not open to getting as much out of life as one can. My H and I both feel each other is the love of our life, are grateful for being able to share our lives together, and know that our bond enriches both of our lives enormously. However, we don't feel either of us are perfect or static (as in a static state of perfection), and so our relationship is also neither perfect nor static. We continue to learn and grow together in a most satisfying and enjoyable way, but perfection is not something either of us seek, as we feel there is always more to learn. We also go through stressful and difficult times together, and don't do that perfectly, but we always try our best to support each other and ourselves to the best of our abilities. That matches my definition. And how beautifully stated.
nofool4u Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 I had an affair with a married woman when I was single strictly to find out how good in bed she was..simple. What a guy
Furious Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 It sounds as if your wife probably had an affair before you had yours. That's generally a major reason for why a wife "needs space" and asks for a separation. Also consistent with her refusal to really work on the marriage at all. I would also guess that she had more than just one affair throughout their entire marriage.
nofool4u Posted October 1, 2012 Posted October 1, 2012 Quote: Originally Posted by standtall I had an affair with a married woman when I was single strictly to find out how good in bed she was..simple. He's being honest. Lots of affairs probably just boil down to a desire for sex. So what? Its the idea that he would bed down other men's wives just to see how good in bed they were. Maybe someday someone will do that with his woman, seeing how its just a big game and all.
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