Lakespookie Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 so im chiling on a tuesday night and all of a sudden i get a call from an unknown number so i say what the hell and pick it up turns out to be my ex (after about a yr and a half together she gave me the silent treatment and pretended i didn't exsist {note: her mother was trying to break her down emotionally and also moved her from therapist to therapist until she found one that agreed with her} i think she either broke down emotionally or they put her on paxil or something) [i might be in denial] anyways so shes on the other line and shes hysterical and telling me to go to the house behind hers and and get a bag she threw over her fence that the fbi was searching for it in her house like a moron that i am i went and looked for the bag with her on the phone at some point someone saw her on the phone and made her hang it up anyways i never found the bag and i got scared after i heard what sounded like someone jumping over the fence so i left so heres my dilema i havent heard from her since i dont know what happended and im worried about her i know she was using me and i should know better than getting used however i cant help it im insane i want to talk to her but dont want to talk to her mother im scared that she might try to kill me or have me arrested or something and i really wish we could talk and be friends eventhough i still harbor very strong emotional attachment to her i wouldent want to get together with her right now i would just like to be friends because something was obviously not right in the first place or we would be together so i dont think even if she were to change her mind and want me now that were ready for that at this time sorry to ramble any constructive critique would be nice thanks in advance lakespookie a soul who lost his soul mate
Author Lakespookie Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 anybody out there ?????????????????
miz_barby Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 What on earth would she have that the FBI would be looking for? Maybe she really is NUTS and that's why her mother moved her from therapist to therapist until she found one that saw through her "normal" exterior! I could be wrong, you know more about her past and all then any of us could but to me it all sounds weird, why would you want to talk to someone who obviously has so many problems??
Author Lakespookie Posted July 24, 2004 Author Posted July 24, 2004 accordidng to her drugs that belong to her dad (i wonder if she just said that to test my fellings idk) and the only real problem she had was her over controling mother oh yeah and your answer to that question as dumb as this probably sounds is because i love her
faux Posted July 24, 2004 Posted July 24, 2004 If I told you that I was in love with a girl who believed she had multiple personalities, what would you think? If I told you that the girl believed her stuffed animals were real, and that she was inhabited by a little girl version of herself, as well as a mean, evil guy personality who hates me, what would you think? Would you think that the girl was nuts? Would you think that I was investing my time in the right woman? How about if I told you that I was in love with a girl who believed she was possessed by a demon, and that this demon resided in a statue of St. Jude that is in her bedroom? What if I told you that this girl attempted to get into a car crash, with me in the car, because she admittedly enjoyed inflicting pain upon me? You would think that I should move on and stop dating nutsos, right? What if I told you that I was going out with a girl who wanted me to cut her, because it turned her on? What if this girl banged her head against the wall repeatedly when she felt she was being "stupid", and that this happened once a day. What if I said that I was dating another girl, and ALL of her ex boyfriends stalked her, that she is constantly in and out of mental hospitals, and that she repeatedly accuses her step father of raping her? You'd think I was pretty stupid, I'll bet. Now, I ask you, why in the world are you investing time with a girl who believed that the FBI was chasing after her? Why are you even giving this girl any second thoughts if you are afraid her mother will try to kill you? What in the world is wrong with you!? I'll admit that all of the above women I mentioned WERE actual girls that I became involved with. I had to go through quite a few nutsos before I realized it JUST wasn't worth it. I highly recommend that you never speak to this girl again, and find someone who is not problematic to become involved with, or to develop feelings for. From the way you authored your post, you sound completely obsessed about this situation. When you were typing, I can almost imagine someone in a cold sweat, shaking and hyper-ventilating. I can imagine someone with his mind racing, feelings shaken, and heart racing. I see how I was when I fell for nut cases, and I can only really say to you: Run away from this girl. Avoid her like the plague.
Author Lakespookie Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 You know if she seemed even half crazy this wouldent be so hard and in all acuallity i was pretty calm as i typed that none the less i know that my problem is that i cant let go i just wish she would have left me with a reason yeah shes given me reasons now but its not the same when you know how it was and you know that it ended with out anything changing
Fayebelle Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 The one means that wins the easiest victory over reason: terror and force. --Hitler, Mein Kampf This girl has issues and she's tying you in knots to keep you around. If I were you I'd run like I had 100 kilos and the FBI was on my tail.
Author Lakespookie Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 thanks for the laugh i needed that so your saying shes called me just to keep me still interested?? or maybe because she was wondering if she still had me by the OO since i have been doing the no contact thing ??? thanks for the replies
Fayebelle Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Prob the latter-but the poor dear really seems to be off so she may not even know why she called.
Author Lakespookie Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 anagin thanks for the help im gonna try and get her outta my mind i just wish i had a way to make the dreams stop its funny though since she called i havent had that may where as the less i think about her the worse the dreams get sorry im rambling again
faux Posted July 26, 2004 Posted July 26, 2004 Things will get better for you. Just don't talk to her anymore, and time will do the healing, whenever time decides to kick in. Believe me, when I say that I have been in similar situations, and time can take a long while to start working. When I read your post, and put myself in your position, I imagined myself becoming extremely upset over things. This is why I mentioned that I could picture you sweating and freaking out, as if I were you, I would be! I'm glad that you aren't that stressed any longer about things. Please remember what this girl was like, so you can spare yourself troubles in the future. I know that the initial feelings of obsession can blind a person, but there are certain things that you should know to keep away from. This girl is obviously very troubled, and although she may not be a bad person, being involved with her was probably not a very good idea. Thinking about being involved with her again is definitely a worse idea.
Author Lakespookie Posted July 26, 2004 Author Posted July 26, 2004 i know exsactly what your saying and in all honesty i dont think i could get back to gether with her right now but i would like to at least have a friendship i mean she was a big part of my life and she got me away from a lot of **** i shouldent have been involved in idk i feel like a <---(sock puppet)
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