youngnlove89 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I new he was going to. He told me on Saturday before we officialy broke up. He said it was because he kept getting weird calls and he wanted to change the area code to the city he was living in (his final string cut from moving to different states). He said he would give it to me. We haven't spoken since Saturday and I called his number on private just to see if he already changed it and that's when I found out he did. I don't know when he did it though. Doesn't matter. In a way, I think this is for the best. It cuts all ties. It's so easy to text/call someone. Now that is no longer an option. Still hurts me. I was just so easy to get rid of. I'm going through the emotions like crazy. 80% of the time, I'm great, doinig fine. I'm suprised actually. 20% of the time (usually weekends and nights) I'm doing okay and I miss him and I cry a little. My heart aches and I resort back to memories of us. Maybe I should change my number too. Because he still has my number and can text me whenever. Maybe this would be good if we both couldn't get a hold of one another. Has this happened to any of you?
yessy21 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Yes. I think the best option is to change yours as well. cut out all ties to him. your are not a second option. there should be no reason for him to call you. also, he didnt even give you his new number and that says a lot more. block him from social networks, send his email to spam or a special folder. do whatever you have to do to heal.
Calico Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Still hurts me. I was just so easy to get rid of. Actually, no, nothing about your break-up was "easy", for neither side. Don't fall back into your habitual and well-practised patterns now, please! You have put so much effort and pain into where you're now. Don't lose that now! Why are you even checking on his number? Don't. You are moving forward, and what he does is no longer any of your concern. This is about your life now, and you're the most important person in your life. Let go off it. 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 Actually, no, nothing about your break-up was "easy", for neither side. Don't fall back into your habitual and well-practised patterns now, please! You have put so much effort and pain into where you're now. Don't lose that now! Why are you even checking on his number? Don't. You are moving forward, and what he does is no longer any of your concern. This is about your life now, and you're the most important person in your life. Let go off it. I don't know. I knew I shouldn't have checked his number. You are right. BUT I am happy! I really am. I think about thim but more because I am angry that I let myself waste time with Mr. Unavailable who never bought me anything and never really cared about me. I think I'm realizing there is better out there. But the weekends are really hard for me, and I'm scared!
LostGirl11 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I don't know. I knew I shouldn't have checked his number. You are right. BUT I am happy! I really am. I think about thim but more because I am angry that I let myself waste time with Mr. Unavailable who never bought me anything and never really cared about me. I think I'm realizing there is better out there. But the weekends are really hard for me, and I'm scared! Why should he give you his new number? Your an ex, nothing else. I think it's a good thing. You won't be able to pick up your phone to text/call him so the urge to contact him should lessen. Unless you go to the trouble of facebooking him or emailing. Which I hope you don't do because they would be very cringe
Mike_d Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I don't know. I knew I shouldn't have checked his number. if you know that at the time, then don't. come here and post instead it'd be the best thing for you if he doesn't give you his new number.
Author youngnlove89 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 It is for the best. The rejections hurts. He doesn't have a Facebook either. And email is blocked from my side. It just seems so final for us. Like he is ready and okay with having me out of his life I just need help dealing with the emotions of all this. I know the obvious but how do I get through the pain?
LostGirl11 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 It is for the best. The rejections hurts. He doesn't have a Facebook either. And email is blocked from my side. It just seems so final for us. Like he is ready and okay with having me out of his life I just need help dealing with the emotions of all this. I know the obvious but how do I get through the pain? I know, it stings. We're left feeling like crap when they're just getting on with it. But thats what we should do too, just get on with it and keep busy.
Mike_d Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I just need help dealing with the emotions of all this. I know the obvious but how do I get through the pain? help is here, just need to keep your streak going, even though it doesn't feel like it you are doing well. The pain is part of the process, you can't stop it. But you can shorten the amount of time you sit in it. Acceptance of the realities is the first step that you need to work on. I think in pictures, not sure if you do but this may help. I always felt like I was in the bottom of this fast flowing river, the river was narrow and about 20' deep. I was trying to so hard to hang on standing in place at the river bottom against this huge flow. but the river contained words and thoughts, and the worse I felt the faster the river of words came at me and the harder I had to hold on. I wasn't able to form complete thoughts, my brain was going a million miles an hour trying to see and understand these words about my relationship going by me. this is me not accepting my situation, trying to stay in place, if I can just hold on a while longer against this flow.... it was wearying, exhausting. I finally had to let go and just let the journey take me where I was destined to go, and stop trying to guide the outcome. I needed to accept what was happening. It's still hard, it still hurts horribly, but I'm not as focused intently on the rearview mirror. I still physically shake typing this out and it makes me very emotional, but it's where I need to go. Acceptance is the key to start the journey that will allow me to end up in a better place
yessy21 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Getting over it is the only option you really have.
Author youngnlove89 Posted September 21, 2012 Author Posted September 21, 2012 I'm just ticked. Like he has the upper hand. He can get a hold of me, I can't. I PRAY that he doesn't contact me. It's time for me to meet a REAL man. One who buys me flowers, takes me out to dinner, plans get-a-ways with me, is outgoing and not a bum. Someone who is attentive and really cares about me and would do everything to AVOID hurting me. I want a real man now.
Mike_d Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 lol, you need to work on you, and leave the man-wiches for the future - no boy-burgers anymore. you'll be fine 1
LostGirl11 Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I'm just ticked. Like he has the upper hand. He can get a hold of me, I can't. I PRAY that he doesn't contact me. It's time for me to meet a REAL man. One who buys me flowers, takes me out to dinner, plans get-a-ways with me, is outgoing and not a bum. Someone who is attentive and really cares about me and would do everything to AVOID hurting me. I want a real man now. You'll find him, one day, when you're not expecting it. You'll look forward to weekends again, instead of willing them away.
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