anhyeuem Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I have dated this guy for 2 months. It was a mess at first. Basically he dated me and my friend at the same time. I didn't know about this until my friend told me after a week. I talked to him and he said because we were not boyfriend and girlfriend yet so he could see other girls. He said now he made up his mind to see me exclusively. Since then, he only see her as a friend. A few day ago, I notice there are girls text him often. Once I saw a message says that she was upset when she found out he has a girlfriend (me). Another message said she liked him even though she was just his one night stand. So obviously she was his one night stand! But I don't know when they did it, before or after he met me.They still text each other. He said he is in love with me. He gives me a lot of attention. He also told his parents about me (they live in another country). Other things I concern about are that he introduces me by my name to his friends and he plans to move to another country next year. When I ask him "What should I do when you leave the country?" He said "I don't know if I want to leave you here." What should I think about this? Do you think I can expect any kind commitment from him? Please help!
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 You'd be an idiot to expect him to actually take you back to his country with him. Bottom line is this guy is looking to play the field, not commit and be in a relationship. He's going to butter you up with sweet words, lie to you about the things he can and downplay the relationship he had with your friend...the fact that he was doing that shows complete disrespect for you or her, he doesn't value either of you. Talk to the friend if anything. At the end of the day though this guy is going to tell you whatever it takes to confuse your foolish mind and emotional heart, unfortunately you more than likely won't listen to any reasonable advice or red flags and be with him anyway, and the only time you'll believe this is true is when he kicks you in face when he's got to go back to the motherland. The only reason you are asking him questions is so he can tell you the things you want to hear, and It's obvious for men...all he has to do is lie and since you went this far with him...that means you're a pushover and not to be taken seriously...just like the other girls. He's not in love with you, he's stringing you and the other girl along and maybe even more If he's capable of getting more, he feeds her and any other girl he's with the same crap, and guess what...you always want to believe it don't you? Learn the hard way. 1
oaks Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Other things I concern about are that he introduces me by my name to his friends why the heck is this a concern? Oh, you mean he should introduce you as his girlfriend? What should I think about this? Do you think I can expect any kind commitment from him? Please help! No, you should not expect any kind of commitment, based on everything else you wrote, but complaining about being introduced by name is just a little bit crazy. The rest of the stuff... not so crazy. Dump him, or accept that it's a short-term thing.
truth_seeker Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Ninja hit the nail on the head. He has no respect for you and is playing you until he's had his fill. He's probably sleeping with other women while he is feeding you all of this bulls--t.
xpaperxcutx Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Dump him. Just the fact he dated your friend and you at the same time is raising the alarms.
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