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The girl whos been acting up (flirting) we'll call Anne, and the boy (who this conflict depends on) we'll call Riley. (because they may see this...)

Okay so I met Anne in freshmen year. She kind of floated around, talking to everybody. She's nice, or appears so on the surface. she has terrible social skills, and because her mom and my mom were friends, i hung around her a lot. Now, in sophmore year, I developed feelings for Riley, a guy friend of mine. I told Anne in secret, and like a friend would, promised she wouldn't tell anyone. Next day, she started getting reaaallly close to Riley. It built up over the weeks until I couldn't take it anymore and I exploded at her. Naturally, she screamed back 'why can't i be friends with him, huh, Bree??" and then when i said 'its cuz i like him, Anne' she said i never told her that. Well, next day, I try to apologize to her so we can work this out like adults, but she went off on me again and said that 'i was a ***** and to never talk to her again'. Two days or so later, she comes up and I apologize to her, but she doesn't apologize to me. My trust in her, obviously, has now been shattered at this point. She continued to try to flirt with Riley and take my place in my circle of friends until the end of the year. Now, at junior year, she asks me if I like anyone. I told her that I still like Riley (but i subtly told her that halfway-jokingly, that 'may the best win') but i thought she wouldn't pick up on that. Now, she's getting more and more obvious when she flirts with Riley, laughing at every single little thing he says and trying to rub it in my face. She doesn't do that with any of the other guys in the group, even if two of them have a mini-crush on her. Worse part is, is that idk if Riley likes Anne or not. He's nice to everyone, sure, but he seems more nice to Anne than everyone. With me, it's a bit different. We both hug each other everytime we see each other, out of habit. We went on a field trip two days ago and he kissed me on top of the head. I feel like no matter what, if I were to date someone right now, it would be him. SO why do I get the feeling Anne is trying to take him away? Why is she actively flirting with him and acting stupid so she can get his and my other guy friend's help. I don't want to talk to her about it because she'll blow up again like last year, and I hate drama more than anything. She also keeps pestering him about homecoming and prom. She pisses me off, and she acts like she's doing everything with me, even in NHS, which she is technically kicked out of now because she didn't go to the first 2 meetings. I have noooooo idea what her true intentions are, and that scares the **** out of me. Does Riley like Anne more than me? Also, if Riley and I do date in the end, I'm scared Anne will try to break us up and then steal him.

Please help!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO???

Also, if you know, how on earth can you tell if a guy likes you and if its the right time to move on from the friendship stage??

 

Thank you! PLEASE HELP!!!!!

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The girl whos been acting up (flirting) we'll call Anne, and the boy (who this conflict depends on) we'll call Riley. (because they may see this...)

Okay so I met Anne in freshmen year. She kind of floated around, talking to everybody. She's nice, or appears so on the surface. she has terrible social skills, and because her mom and my mom were friends, i hung around her a lot. Now, in sophmore year, I developed feelings for Riley, a guy friend of mine. I told Anne in secret, and like a friend would, promised she wouldn't tell anyone. Next day, she started getting reaaallly close to Riley. It built up over the weeks until I couldn't take it anymore and I exploded at her. Naturally, she screamed back 'why can't i be friends with him, huh, Bree??" and then when i said 'its cuz i like him, Anne' she said i never told her that. Well, next day, I try to apologize to her so we can work this out like adults, but she went off on me again and said that 'i was a ***** and to never talk to her again'. Two days or so later, she comes up and I apologize to her, but she doesn't apologize to me. My trust in her, obviously, has now been shattered at this point. She continued to try to flirt with Riley and take my place in my circle of friends until the end of the year. Now, at junior year, she asks me if I like anyone. I told her that I still like Riley (but i subtly told her that halfway-jokingly, that 'may the best win') but i thought she wouldn't pick up on that. Now, she's getting more and more obvious when she flirts with Riley, laughing at every single little thing he says and trying to rub it in my face. She doesn't do that with any of the other guys in the group, even if two of them have a mini-crush on her. Worse part is, is that idk if Riley likes Anne or not. He's nice to everyone, sure, but he seems more nice to Anne than everyone. With me, it's a bit different. We both hug each other everytime we see each other, out of habit. We went on a field trip two days ago and he kissed me on top of the head. I feel like no matter what, if I were to date someone right now, it would be him. SO why do I get the feeling Anne is trying to take him away? Why is she actively flirting with him and acting stupid so she can get his and my other guy friend's help. I don't want to talk to her about it because she'll blow up again like last year, and I hate drama more than anything. She also keeps pestering him about homecoming and prom. She pisses me off, and she acts like she's doing everything with me, even in NHS, which she is technically kicked out of now because she didn't go to the first 2 meetings. I have noooooo idea what her true intentions are, and that scares the **** out of me. Does Riley like Anne more than me? Also, if Riley and I do date in the end, I'm scared Anne will try to break us up and then steal him.

Please help!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO???

Also, if you know, how on earth can you tell if a guy likes you and if its the right time to move on from the friendship stage??

 

Thank you! PLEASE HELP!!!!!

 

 

 

ummm a bit messy huh....i wish i could give you advice i am out of practice so i cant tell you how to move on from the friendship stage i am trying myself....not moving fast more snailish i am taking it as it happens and hope whatever my heart tells me to do is right and that the interest will be reciprocated.....if not....I am grabbin flippers snorkel and a wetsuit and a speargun going to swim to africa to feed the kids....from australia.....be the first woman to do that and not get eaten by a shark along the way.or ill move on .......

 

 

ill let you know if I plan on swimming....smilin.....i dont know vulptails you have competition i know the feeling......its hard to move on from the friendship stage i think what will be will be, if it happens it happens....when you feel in your heart about inviting him somewhere or do something with him....nike said it best.....just do it....deal with the after effects after they happen....and then gt a wet suit spear gun and flippers and swim wherever to feed someone if it all goes pear shaped.....i am kidding dont swim, take a plane........deb

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