mortensorchid Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 It hurts. It hurts so bad to see the old bfs with their new gfs who say "I love you" to one another on their Facebook walls and they never said it to you. Nothing is so cruel even though intellectually you know they are not good enough for you. Such is my decission to hang it up.
CptObvious Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 lol weeeaaaaak. grow a pair and delete those fools.
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 De-friend. It sounds like a torture... 1
jobaba Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 It hurts. It hurts so bad to see the old bfs with their new gfs who say "I love you" to one another on their Facebook walls and they never said it to you. Nothing is so cruel even though intellectually you know they are not good enough for you. Such is my decission to hang it up. Choose your relationships better. If you had gone out with me, we'd still be facebook friends, real friends, and I'd still check up on you to see how you were doing. Assuming I wasn't hung up on you and was over you. But I have been able to get over every woman so far, so I don't see why you'd be any different. Instead of an endless game of outdo your ex... You can ALWAYS find a good man who appreciates you. Any woman here can. Yet, the themes of LS are always the same... Guys can't get dates, and women deal with jerks. And around and around we go. Nobody ever learns. Oh well. I'm hanging it up too. See ya at Friday night bingo!
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Didn't you post here a few days ago that you HAD deleted your exes from facebook? 1
jobaba Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 BTW... Am I the only person on Earth that would actually be happy to see my exes (those that I'm not FWB with) find a relationship and be happy? I know I really want my last GF to find a man bad. She needs it. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 Choose your relationships better. If you had gone out with me, we'd still be facebook friends, real friends, and I'd still check up on you to see how you were doing. Assuming I wasn't hung up on you and was over you. But I have been able to get over every woman so far, so I don't see why you'd be any different. Instead of an endless game of outdo your ex... You can ALWAYS find a good man who appreciates you. Any woman here can. Yet, the themes of LS are always the same... Guys can't get dates, and women deal with jerks. And around and around we go. Nobody ever learns. Oh well. I'm hanging it up too. See ya at Friday night bingo! I don't see her exes posting "I love you" on their girlfriends walls as being jerkish. They evidently are in love now. I certainly understand why it would hurt, but WHY ARE YOU EVEN A PART OF IT, OP? Unfriend!
jobaba Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I don't see her exes posting "I love you" on their girlfriends walls as being jerkish. They evidently are in love now. I certainly understand why it would hurt, but WHY ARE YOU EVEN A PART OF IT, OP? Unfriend! She said they didn't say they loved her, meaning they didn't appreciate her, think she was good enough for them, etc.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 She said they didn't say they loved her, meaning they didn't appreciate her, think she was good enough for them, etc. Maybe they just … were not in love with her. Not everybody falls in love with each person they date, you know.
jobaba Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 (edited) Maybe they just … were not in love with her. Not everybody falls in love with each person they date, you know. Read the OP again. It cries of angst and the pangs of the competitive nature of the game of dating. Dumping, being dumped, cheating, finding someone better, defriending on Facebook. Things aren't supposed to work like that. If you dated somebody, you're supposed to have LIKED them a lot AS A PERSON. I want to keep those people in my life. You can choose to play the game a different way, though it's not always possible to stay friends. But most people seem to prefer the pattern of find the best possible, dump or be dumped, if latter tell yourself you are better than him, cut out of life, repeat... Edited September 21, 2012 by jobaba
LittlePrince Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 why are you friends with them? Because women are by nature masochistic.
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 She said they didn't say they loved her, meaning they didn't appreciate her, think she was good enough for them, etc. I am sure the "writing" was on the wall for OP that ex wasn't in love with her. She still chose to stay. Now she is still choosing to keep his as a FB friend. Often, you break your own heart. My rule of thumb regarding FB and exs is: is seeing their new gfs etc making me feel bad? If yes, then delete. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted September 22, 2012 Author Posted September 22, 2012 Just to clarify, I thought I had unfriended both of them, but I had only unfriended one. I unfriended the second one last night. Life goes on, hurts too much. 1
january2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 Often, you break your own heart. Very true, ES. Especially if one is the type of person who is attracted to pain and angst. I think we've all been a little self-sabotaging and masochistic at some point in our lives, particularly after a break-up. But it's important to know when to stop wallowing in it and actually get on with the rest of our lives. Choose happiness, if you will. Allowing exes to disrupt that path is probably not conducive to that. OP: Unfriend as others advised.
Jane2011 Posted September 22, 2012 Posted September 22, 2012 BTW... Am I the only person on Earth that would actually be happy to see my exes (those that I'm not FWB with) find a relationship and be happy? I know I really want my last GF to find a man bad. She needs it. I feel that way about one ex, but the others I either don't care or hope they lead unhappy lives
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