constantlyconfused Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 (edited) I have no problem with a man being close to his parents in general... I'm pretty close to mine. But constant text messaging back and forth all day and phone calls every day just seem overboard to me. Is it just me?? My husband and I had our fair share of problems in our first year of marriage due to his jealousy and his parents meddling. Without getting into the details, I'll just say that I really don't have any respect for his mother or father anymore, but I still see them on a regular basis and am very nice and kind with them. The issues we had with his jealousy and his parents meddling we tried to resolve by going to marriage counselling and eventually we had a conversation with his parents where we finaly set some boundaries. Anyway, so I haven't experienced them "meddling" in our marriage the way they had before, but they still call and text him on a super overly regular basis. I'm not sure if i'm extra sensitive because of the stuff we dealt with before or whether it is really is that bad. His parents call him every day while he is at work (presumably because they can chat with him without worrying about me being around). His dad also texts his at least 5 times or more a day... about everything. When we wake up, his phone buzzes with them asking what he's doing, and how his sleep was. While having lunch together his phone buzzes with them asking what he's eating... etc etc etc... Sometimes it just more casual chat about a sports game or movie or something. I've tried not to let it bother me, but lately I can't stand it. I feel like we have no privacy and they know EVERYTHING about our lives and days. I've tried to talk to him about it and he always gets very defensive, so I haven't brought it up for a while until a few days ago I let him know again that I don't like them knowing about every minute of our day. He says it has nothing to do with me or our day and that his dad is just his best friend. He got very angry and defensive with me again for bringing it up and for having a problem with it. I know our problems lie deeper... we've had our share of problems and i've never quite felt as close to him or as in love with him as before we were married, but I guess I just want some perspective on the dad being his best friend thing? Is this a normal amount of contact or overboard? I wish I was my husbands best friend, but I really don't feel like he has the space for that in his life. Edited September 20, 2012 by constantlyconfused
amaysngrace Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Just be nice to your husband and don't give him a hard time about this. You can't make him love you more than he loves them but you can make his parents like you more by not stressing out their son. And that will put them on your side.
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