Crila16 Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I'm so angry right now. I have a question, because I don't understand. A guy I had been dating for the last few months, has been distancing himself over the past 3 weeks. I'm ok with it and it can just be chalked up to he's not that interested, because a guy who is interested, isn't going to go 3 weeks without seeing or talking to a girl he likes. Anyway, I assumed it was over and he has one of my movies. It's part of a trilogy and I want it back. I was very nice in my txt, for someone who's been blown off for the past few weeks, and just asked nicely if he could leave the movie with his doorman, so I could run up and grab it. He then said "Hey..want to meet up for drinks tonite?" I was confused. I said I was unavailable but maybe another night, but could he still leave my movie at the desk for me. He didn't respond, so I was worried he wasn't going to leave it. Later that night, I txt'd "Hey...going to be out later tonite than I thought, so just leave it at the front desk and I'll pick it up over the next few days. He txt'd back "Why are you nuts about this movie? you can get the DVD for $10." I said "Fine. Just keep it. I'll get another. Thanks for being a stand up guy." No response back. The reason I want the movie back is for sentimental reasons. I will let it go if I have to, but someone special in my past had given it to me, and I'm kinda upset about it. Anyway...it would have taken him 2 min to leave it at the desk and I would then be out of his life. I don't understand. I know he's not that interested, so why not just give it back to me?
Calico Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I'd buy another copy and send it to him, with a note: "Since you liked the first DVD so much, I figured you might enjoy having two." -- and then go NC and block him. 1
geegirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Go out and buy the DVD and add it to the other two. It's just a DVD and the memory of the person that gave it to you still remains. It's not worth the aggravation. Some people can be jerks. Just as how he lacked consideration and courtesy by completely ignoring you, his behavior now shouldn't be a surprise. Seems like he's holding it hostage because it keeps communication open. Go NC. 1
Author Crila16 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 @Calico...that's hysterical! LMAO!!! I should do that.
Author Crila16 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 @Geegirl...I know. I'm going to have to let go of the memory and just buy a new one. This guy is such a (insert any bad word here) and I really thought he was a good guy at first. I even took him to a Giants game with awesome seats. This is the thanks i get. He started blowing me off right after the game. I just don't see why he can't leave it at the front desk on his way downstairs. He has to go right by it everyday. Takes 2 seconds.
geegirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 @Geegirl...I know. I'm going to have to let go of the memory and just buy a new one. This guy is such a (insert any bad word here) and I really thought he was a good guy at first. I even took him to a Giants game with awesome seats. This is the thanks i get. He started blowing me off right after the game. I just don't see why he can't leave it at the front desk on his way downstairs. He has to go right by it everyday. Takes 2 seconds. No, no! Let the DVD go but keep the memory! I dated an assclown like yours once. It was very short. He was a taker. Unfortunately you sometimes come across a few. In future, hold back a little and find a balance between giving and receiving when meeting someone new.
2sunny Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 You're really fortunate if this is your biggest worry. I have several friends battling cancer and you helped remind me about perspective. Thanks!
Author Crila16 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 What's funny is...he doesn't even care to watch the movie. I brought it over one day to watch, and he just couldn't get into it. Then the power went out, and since we were spending so much time together, I thought I'd leave it to watch for another day. Nope...he won't give it back. I just know if I had something that belonged to someone I was done dating, I'd leave it with the doorman, just to get the person out of my life. Why am I so angry? I want to drop kick him to the ground. I guess I also feel like he got the best of me.
Author Crila16 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 @2Sunny. I'm so sorry to hear about your friends with cancer. I too lost my best friend 5 months ago from stage 4 breast cancer. It's devastating. I went through a huge mourning phase and cried many tears. But please don't read and comment on my post. I'm not trying to compete with something like what you're going through. I'm just agrivated (and as a human being, completely entitled) to feel what I feel like feeling, and commenting. Not everything has to be deep and sad. If you feel this is silly and beneath you, then ignore my post. 1
geegirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 What's funny is...he doesn't even care to watch the movie. I brought it over one day to watch, and he just couldn't get into it. Then the power went out, and since we were spending so much time together, I thought I'd leave it to watch for another day. Nope...he won't give it back. I just know if I had something that belonged to someone I was done dating, I'd leave it with the doorman, just to get the person out of my life. Why am I so angry? I want to drop kick him to the ground. I guess I also feel like he got the best of me. Me thinks he's using DVD as a way to keep communication open so he has the chance to entice you with drinks, you get DVD and he can score some booty. See, he's not you. He has motive. You don't and will do the right thing. You're mad because he treated you badly and even now is still getting away with it. Don't contact him and ignore if he does. 1
2sunny Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I vote for buying a new trilogy set - keep the one- give the other two to his doorman. 1
2sunny Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 @2Sunny. I'm so sorry to hear about your friends with cancer. I too lost my best friend 5 months ago from stage 4 breast cancer. It's devastating. I went through a huge mourning phase and cried many tears. But please don't read and comment on my post. I'm not trying to compete with something like what you're going through. I'm just agrivated (and as a human being, completely entitled) to feel what I feel like feeling, and commenting. Not everything has to be deep and sad. If you feel this is silly and beneath you, then ignore my post. I'm not sad - I always happy to have the chance to know great people.
todreaminblue Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I'm so angry right now. I have a question, because I don't understand. A guy I had been dating for the last few months, has been distancing himself over the past 3 weeks. I'm ok with it and it can just be chalked up to he's not that interested, because a guy who is interested, isn't going to go 3 weeks without seeing or talking to a girl he likes. Anyway, I assumed it was over and he has one of my movies. It's part of a trilogy and I want it back. I was very nice in my txt, for someone who's been blown off for the past few weeks, and just asked nicely if he could leave the movie with his doorman, so I could run up and grab it. He then said "Hey..want to meet up for drinks tonite?" I was confused. I said I was unavailable but maybe another night, but could he still leave my movie at the desk for me. He didn't respond, so I was worried he wasn't going to leave it. Later that night, I txt'd "Hey...going to be out later tonite than I thought, so just leave it at the front desk and I'll pick it up over the next few days. He txt'd back "Why are you nuts about this movie? you can get the DVD for $10." I said "Fine. Just keep it. I'll get another. Thanks for being a stand up guy." No response back. The reason I want the movie back is for sentimental reasons. I will let it go if I have to, but someone special in my past had given it to me, and I'm kinda upset about it. Anyway...it would have taken him 2 min to leave it at the desk and I would then be out of his life. I don't understand. I know he's not that interested, so why not just give it back to me? If he wasnt interested he would have not asked you out in my opinion it seems you have lost interest.If he was interested would you still be asking for that movie back? When i give something to someone whther they are intersted in me o rno ti give because i wan tto give and normally i do give things that have sentimental value to me......two examples i have....one example is when i met my real father and my half sister for the first time I knew that i would not be able to see them again because my partner at the time got extremely upset.........I gave her a necklace that i was wearing even though i twas something i would never have again and did have high sentimental value.....i wanted to use that sentimental value for it to mean something......to her and to me......i put the necklace around her neck and told her to keep it it was from me......if she had given it back it would have offended me the second was a recent give i gave a book put a message inside it and gave it to someone i consider to be special to me......if he were to retun it to me......it would hit pretty hard.....let the movie go......think about it as i gave it to someone who i care about......that wont change whether he cares about em or not i dont give things to gain something......i never have.....possessions come and go money comes and gos....caring about people and loving people never goes away........true friends never go away in your heart......forget the distance...forget time passed...its forever in your heart....movies have a shelf life.....to me he is interested in you .....but it is your choice whether you have him in your heart or there is a shelf life attached whoever i have had in my heart has something that i found to be sentimental....every single person......whether i see them again or not...talk to them or not......there are slices and little trinkets of deb all over australia....lol......one friend i had died of a heart attack she took with her a piece of my heart and my hopes i will see her again which has much more sentimental value to me.....deb
Author Crila16 Posted September 20, 2012 Author Posted September 20, 2012 Thanks Geegirl. I'm totally NCing with him. He's the one who's nuts. Thank God he wasn't able to entice me last nights with drinks. I rejected him and he probably thought I had another date. That's probably why he's mad. Just 3 weeks ago he told me he was the one and he was it for me and admitted he was jealous about other guys...3 weeks later...he's blowing me off. Well...anyway. I didn't have a date last night, but I do tomorrow night. I'm hoping he's more of a man than this creep.
geegirl Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Thanks Geegirl. I'm totally NCing with him. He's the one who's nuts. Thank God he wasn't able to entice me last nights with drinks. I rejected him and he probably thought I had another date. That's probably why he's mad. Just 3 weeks ago he told me he was the one and he was it for me and admitted he was jealous about other guys...3 weeks later...he's blowing me off. Well...anyway. I didn't have a date last night, but I do tomorrow night. I'm hoping he's more of a man than this creep. Yes, they have lots of words. But his actions show you otherwise. Declaring to be lifetime partners but fails to see you for three weeks. Actions. Words are cheap, infact free. Go out and meet others but hold this experience as a lesson and use it wisely.
KatZee Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 You're lucky all he took was a DVD. You have the other 2 so just get the last one. You still have the memories of the person who gave it to you. One of my previous exes stole my cat. Now THAT was devastation. I raised him from kittenhood. He was my furry son. He was so bonded to me. Couldn't do anything about it.
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