Prids Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years now and love him so much. He's kind, fun, clever, funny, generous and very attractive - everything I could look for in a man. However, although I find him good looking, I find it very hard to get turned on by him now and feel this is effecting our relationship. Recently I've become very curious about other men. We are both only 22 and have only ever been with each other, but I can't help but wonder what else is out there. This feeling has become more intense since our passion has distinguished. I want to experience the passion again. He also lives 2 hours away so we only get to see each other at the weekends. We are planning on moving in together in the next year somewhere midway between our current cities. I want to talk to my boyfriend about this but can not see how it can help or how I would tell him. I don't want to cheat on him, but I don't want to loose him either. Everything else in our relationship is great, its just curiosity and wanting new experiences whilst I'm young thats in the way. I know the grass isn't always greener on the other side, I just can't help this feeling. What would you do in this situation? Should I talk to him about this? How would I go about this? Thank you for any help.
CptObvious Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 I'd suggest that you cheat and get away with it. Your current bf is still valuable to you emotionally, so I don't see a reason to get rid of him. Talking to him about the problem will be disastrous, and he'll most likely walk. I don't see any other option, unless you can somehow magically make your bf grow a 12" penis. You also have to understand that you can't cave in to the guilt if you do follow my advice. The most important thing is that you don't get caught, and of course, turning yourself in is just as bad as getting caught. Put your morals aside for a while and have some fun. Nobody will find out you're a slut if you play this well enough. Everyone you know, including yourself, will most likely be dead in 50 years. There's absolutely no reason to treat your little adventure like it's going to cause an apocalypse.
Titanwolf Posted September 20, 2012 Posted September 20, 2012 Break up with him, go about your business. If you cheat on him, not only do you become a traitor, you become a thief because you're stealing precious time away from this man, cultivating a relationship based on lies. He deserves better. You are both in the same situation and yet he (who is apparently biologically wired to do so) isn't thinking about going out to "experience" other people as far as you know. This isn't anything personal against you, there's just NO excuse for cheating. If you do it, especially with such premeditated thinking, you are a spineless coward. You know what's right and what's fair to both you and him. it's not rocket science.
Ami1uwant Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 I would suggest you break up with him first. Be honest with him as to why...you want your grass to be greener. One issue though...its quite common in relationships to lose that new car smell after some time. I would say go out there and explore what is out there...then when you found out other guys are not like your bf you can try to come back to him. If you cheat on him and he finds out you are toast.
yongyong Posted September 21, 2012 Posted September 21, 2012 you are so shallow.....it's all about Personality. ROFL
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