She thinks she ruined my life and that I'd be better without her.

[Jehuty212]

Hello LS,

 

I made a similar thread in another location on the forums, but I wasn't sure it was the right place to post it. So I'll keep this as short as possible.

 

Let me start off by saying that I'm one of those people that makes themselves happy, I don't like to rely on others to do that for me.

 

Noelle and I had been dating for a year and a half, she and I both 20. Whenever I went up to Boston for a week, she texted me saying that she does not feel so well about her self and telling me that I was a reason for it. Whenever I got back, she decided that it would be best if we took a break so that we could both heal ourselves and have a healthier relationship. I'll admit that I was being selfish at the time, because I didn't want this. I wanted her to be there for me because it was going on the anniversary of someone's death, someone really close to me. It was a hard time for me.

 

Over the next few days, I did some favors for her like her homework (she has ADD). I went to deliver it to her later that night. We talked and she cried in my arms saying that she didn't want to lose me and that I was her bestfriend, shortly after her parents came home and saw her smeared makeup and must have thought that I hurt her or something. The next day I wanted to give her her favorite stuffed animal when she lived with me. She had less than an hour remaining at work, so I decided to wait in the front room. She angrily came over to me asking what I was doing. She asked me to leave and as I was, I got a phone call from my mom saying that I need to get the hell away from her work. She called her dad..

 

The next night, her dad called my dad saying "If he ever calls, texts, IMs, emails, or visits her at work again, I WILL call the police and I WILL get a PFA." I respect her father, but we're both 20, he can't get a PFA against me for her and she told a friend that she didn't want it, but her parents insisted.

 

Two weeks later, my friend asked her to get in contact with me because he was worried about me (he's away at school). She responded by saying that it's for the best if we no longer have contact and that I'd be better off without her and that she wants me to be happy "and that unfortunately can't be with me anymore."

 

Going back to what I said earlier, I don't rely on others to make me happy, lately I've lost a lot of interest in the things I used to do. I was unhappy because I lacked self-identity and I needed to find that and love myself before I could continue taking care of her. However, she feels like she's made me miserable, and seeing me unhappy, made her aswell because she relied on me. THAT CAN CHANGE! I just need to find new things.

 

She told me before that she thought she ruined my life and I'm dying to tell her that she's got it all wrong. I don't want to watch this all burn, when it's fixable. She's overreacting and there's nothing I can do to show her without getting someone upset.

[Mike_d]

you can't force someone to be with you. let her go

[Jehuty212]

I don't know why she feels this way though, I've told her that I need to do somethings for myself.

[MonsterMash]

I don't know why she feels this way though, I've told her that I need to do somethings for myself.

 

Dude...let her go. She ain't worth it.

[amaysngrace]

Her parents don't like you. She can't be with you.